not sure who I am

[EricOntario]

Being gay, straight, bi or anything else doesn't define you... our sexuality is part of who we are like anything else that affects how we live our lives but it's not the "whole package". If you can work on being OK with your feelings and accepting yourself and how you feel, you will start to feel differently about sex (or maybe not -- we're all different). My point is that you have to be open to accepting your own feelings and being OK with whatever you're going to find there before you can really understand how you feel about this stuff.

I felt the same as you for a really long time and only relatively recently really came to grips with stuff. It was a process, but I really found that once I decided to be OK with myself and started understanding that there was nothing "wrong" or bad about how I felt, then I really started to understand myself and what I wanted a lot more.