Serious Sex

[michaelson]

I am close friends with a gay couple and I was talking about sex a few weeks ago with them. They've been together for a long time (10 years) and I asked them if they'd mind telling me about their sex life.

They have strange views on sex, but all for "good" reasons. Mutual masturbation and frot (rubbing their penises together) accounts for almost all of their sexual activity. They are opposed to anal sex, with the logic that someone has to receive and that receiving undermines your masculinity. Also, they said they never clean up the semen after they're done; laying there with some wetness on your body is part of the act.

They said that there are three guidelines they follow in the bedroom:

1. All sexual activity leads both people to orgasm together. (As opposed to, "I'll suck you then you jerk me off")
2. Everything focuses on them having sex as two men and no one submits to the other.
3. Problems in their relationship are worked out before having sex.


I feel that they have a very special relationship; they're very spiritual and seem to love each-other very much. They view sex as a very powerful tool to express their love and are very careful with it. I wish I could be more like them.

Do others have thoughts on this?