12-05-2007, 05:25 PM
My boyfriend is three years younger than me, and, whilst that has raised some eyebrows, it suits us both fine. He gets someone sensible and mature to help him develop, and I get someone who exudes immaturity into my Life oppressed by the opposite.
The largest part of the time is great, and we just "get" each other so well. He's so much that so many other people aren't, and it'll be 8 months on the 28th of this month.
But, as with any fairytale, there's a problem. Trouble is, that problem is me.
His bad habits seriously grate on me. Like hang-up-the-phone/walk-out-the-room grate on me. And as much as I've tried to get over them... ignore them... It just hasn't worked. He just keeps on annoying me, without ever knowing he's doing it.
I HATE when he's on the phone, and stops mid-sentence to answer his idiot friend next to him.
I HATE the way he thoughtlessly gives a running commentary on everything he's doing.
And I HATE the way he says goodbye. He cuts you off SO damn quick!
Things came to a head - and we argued. It served only to upset him, make him feel inadequate, and send him off into promising to change and be better. And I have to admit, I felt terrible. It made me think...
Really... Am I expecting too much?
Relationships are so complex. He's so young, and so inexperienced in anything as serious as what we're trying to do. I feel like I demand too much by asking him to take everything in, adapt to it all, and fit my image.
And that's unfair.
I DID suggest we tried having a break. He cried again, desperately asking me not to.
GRR!!
Why is it all the fun and laughter disappears..?
x x x
The largest part of the time is great, and we just "get" each other so well. He's so much that so many other people aren't, and it'll be 8 months on the 28th of this month.
But, as with any fairytale, there's a problem. Trouble is, that problem is me.
His bad habits seriously grate on me. Like hang-up-the-phone/walk-out-the-room grate on me. And as much as I've tried to get over them... ignore them... It just hasn't worked. He just keeps on annoying me, without ever knowing he's doing it.
I HATE when he's on the phone, and stops mid-sentence to answer his idiot friend next to him.
I HATE the way he thoughtlessly gives a running commentary on everything he's doing.
And I HATE the way he says goodbye. He cuts you off SO damn quick!
Things came to a head - and we argued. It served only to upset him, make him feel inadequate, and send him off into promising to change and be better. And I have to admit, I felt terrible. It made me think...
Really... Am I expecting too much?
Relationships are so complex. He's so young, and so inexperienced in anything as serious as what we're trying to do. I feel like I demand too much by asking him to take everything in, adapt to it all, and fit my image.
And that's unfair.
I DID suggest we tried having a break. He cried again, desperately asking me not to.
GRR!!
Why is it all the fun and laughter disappears..?
x x x
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