02-05-2012, 09:37 PM
Hey everyone.
Would like your views on this:
The question is about real ways to raise your self esteem. By real i mean i have looked in books, and they tell you to do things like look infront of the mirror and say i love myself 100 times lol - but my problem if that is, if you dont believe it to be true - the message wont sink in?
Anyway, here is a prime example. Im finding it very difficult to make friends at the moment, because a lot of people are "further down the line" than i am - they have got established friendships, stable jobs, maybe even partners, and when i meet them, i look at myself and think "why i havent got any of that" - then, not even conciously, i riddicle myself, and conclude i must be horrible, ugly, and worthless that no-one could like me, then i just dont want to meet anyone again, because it fuels this cycle.....Do people follow that? Obviously not meeting people is doing me no good either.
Ive always been exceptionally touchy about looks. I am in my twenties and never had a relationship, and given that *most* lads and girls, gay or straight have had a relationship by that age, there feels something hugely wrong with me, it makes me feel like i am a freak. People i know say there is nothing wrong with my looks or personality - - - but doesnt the evidence say otherwise? I cant seem to attract anyone, and it depresses the hell out of me.
Ive been invited to go out to a nightclub, but am kind of dreading it for this reason. I dont and wont go to nightclub to "pull" but if the people im going with do, and no one is interested in me, i know it will make me flip, and feel so ugly, unattractive and worthless - because this is a very touchy subject for me. I'll probably go off in a huff or bad mood then. I guess id like to know that one - just one - guy on this planet actually thinks im good looking.
I know this post makes me sound like a massively jealous person. I am not, i am genuine, honest and decent lad. I however struggle so much with my own self, and my own looks and my own personality.
Thanks for your responses in advance.
Younglad.
Would like your views on this:
The question is about real ways to raise your self esteem. By real i mean i have looked in books, and they tell you to do things like look infront of the mirror and say i love myself 100 times lol - but my problem if that is, if you dont believe it to be true - the message wont sink in?
Anyway, here is a prime example. Im finding it very difficult to make friends at the moment, because a lot of people are "further down the line" than i am - they have got established friendships, stable jobs, maybe even partners, and when i meet them, i look at myself and think "why i havent got any of that" - then, not even conciously, i riddicle myself, and conclude i must be horrible, ugly, and worthless that no-one could like me, then i just dont want to meet anyone again, because it fuels this cycle.....Do people follow that? Obviously not meeting people is doing me no good either.
Ive always been exceptionally touchy about looks. I am in my twenties and never had a relationship, and given that *most* lads and girls, gay or straight have had a relationship by that age, there feels something hugely wrong with me, it makes me feel like i am a freak. People i know say there is nothing wrong with my looks or personality - - - but doesnt the evidence say otherwise? I cant seem to attract anyone, and it depresses the hell out of me.
Ive been invited to go out to a nightclub, but am kind of dreading it for this reason. I dont and wont go to nightclub to "pull" but if the people im going with do, and no one is interested in me, i know it will make me flip, and feel so ugly, unattractive and worthless - because this is a very touchy subject for me. I'll probably go off in a huff or bad mood then. I guess id like to know that one - just one - guy on this planet actually thinks im good looking.
I know this post makes me sound like a massively jealous person. I am not, i am genuine, honest and decent lad. I however struggle so much with my own self, and my own looks and my own personality.
Thanks for your responses in advance.
Younglad.
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