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Ok im a bit ducking frunk! This question has been asked before. How would a guy go about meeting a decent guy when he was ready to?!! By that I mean not hook ups but emotional connections- can this be done by online dating or maybe a social group. Like I say, im still working stuff out but, for the near future I want a guy that I can really connect with- how have you lucky guys done this? What would unlucky guys recommend I avoid? Im a nice guy, broad of shoulder, tall, although somewhat roughened looking through a life lived! Haha! Any advice is genuinely appreciated!! Stu :-)
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You get yourself into situations where people can talk to you and you can talk to them. You sure don't sound like an "eejit" here, so you'll do all right. Are there MeetUp groups where you are?
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I found my husbear online, so apparently that works too. It requires luck though.
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You get yourself into situations where people can talk to you and you can talk to them. You sure don't sound like an "eejit" here, so you'll do all right. Are there MeetUp groups where you are?
Bless you @LJay humoring a drunk! I live pretty rural these days but, yes, I do believe there are some! If I could get up the nerve to join one that would be one big step mate! Sometime soon I'm sure I will! :-))
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I found my husbear online, so apparently that works too. It requires luck though.
Ah nice one @Cuddly! What site did you use, was it a 'match' type one?
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Ah nice one @Cuddly! What site did you use, was it a 'match' type one?
Silverdaddies.com or something - probably not your cup of tea
No idea if the site still exists. It was 10 years ago.
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Silverdaddies.com or something - probably not your cup of tea
No idea if the site still exists. It was 10 years ago.
Thanks mate, it's one to bear in mind! :-)
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Ok im a bit ducking frunk! This question has been asked before. How would a guy go about meeting a decent guy when he was ready to?!! By that I mean not hook ups but emotional connections- can this be done by online dating or maybe a social group. Like I say, im still working stuff out but, for the near future I want a guy that I can really connect with- how have you lucky guys done this? What would unlucky guys recommend I avoid? Im a nice guy, broad of shoulder, tall, although somewhat roughened looking through a life lived! Haha! Any advice is genuinely appreciated!! Stu :-)
Hello Zen,
Decent guys are everywhere but you need to pick them up among non-decent ones. All dating apps are just porn sites except for a few people. @deephiance has a nice word for it, which I still remember :D ''all sites and the people are same under a different logo.
I met a decent guy but it just didnt work.
What to avoid;
- People who takes their feet photos (I'm sorry that you have feet photos. your feet are nice hehe) But some wears dirty suck etc...
- Avoid from people who shows BDSM pictures, those are generally not into relationship as the way you said.
- Avoid from people who directly asks ''what do you look for?'' or ''asl''.
- (this one is a personal one) I'm not feminine but I avoid people who behave feminines like they're girls. They write on their profile ''I want a real man, not man looking females''

and when you say ''roughened'', you mean a face with many acne marks? if it's wrinkles, some even find it hot.
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Tinder. It's a bit superficial, but actually nicer than Grindr in my experience. Also plenty of fish.

Also being single and eating cake is fun. Ian's top tip right there.
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I've never used those dating apps so I can't comment on how successful they can be for folks. I'm a member of several gay meet up groups which I'm finding are a great way to meet and mingle with lots of like-minded, interesting guys
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Dating apps can be successful, though you do have to wade through a good number of people looking just for sex. Only ever used Tinder and Grindr myself, I did get a meaningful relationship with a guy through Grindr, and I do know of a few people that are in relationships through Grindr, so it does happen if you can bear to be on the app long enough with a lot of guys just badgering you for hook-ups (the block function is a wonderful thing).

I have never been to one of these MeetUp groups but have heard of people that have. I reckon they would be a great way to meet other gay guys, in a friendly environment without the pressure of dating. Something may happen that way. It is nerve-wracking, but you just have to get out there
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Hello Zen,
Decent guys are everywhere but you need to pick them up among non-decent ones. All dating apps are just porn sites except for a few people. @deephiance has a nice word for it, which I still remember :D ''all sites and the people are same under a different logo.
I met a decent guy but it just didnt work.
What to avoid;
- People who takes their feet photos (I'm sorry that you have feet photos. your feet are nice hehe) But some wears dirty suck etc...
- Avoid from people who shows BDSM pictures, those are generally not into relationship as the way you said.
- Avoid from people who directly asks ''what do you look for?'' or ''asl''.
- (this one is a personal one) I'm not feminine but I avoid people who behave feminines like they're girls. They write on their profile ''I want a real man, not man looking females''

and when you say ''roughened'', you mean a face with many acne marks? if it's wrinkles, some even find it hot.

Thanks for the tips and the foot complement haha!

Yeah my face looks like it's lived life! Haha!
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Tinder. It's a bit superficial, but actually nicer than Grindr in my experience. Also plenty of fish.

Also being single and eating cake is fun. Ian's top tip right there.
Ah ok Tinder or POF, cool! Like the top tip too! Hmm coffee sponge has come to mind yum!
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I've never used those dating apps so I can't comment on how successful they can be for folks. I'm a member of several gay meet up groups which I'm finding are a great way to meet and mingle with lots of like-minded, interesting guys
Ah cool! Are they varied types of groups? I know that there's a walking group near me, I like to walk! Haha!
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