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Unread 16th February 2017   #16
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Maybe he had an erection and didn't want you to know. Why else would a guy flinch (or overreact, for that matter)?
He went for his belly, not for his cock. Maybe he displaced his words from belly to cock. Some people really dislike having their belly touched or punched, as it can be very sensitive.
I don't know what comment the original poster made about his friend's belly but had it been a comment that was seen as negative he may not have wanted original poster to get anywhere near his stomach. I think the not-wanting-my-cock-to-be-touched may just be an excuse. I think what happened may have in fact been something to do with the belly and not the cock, but the words acted as a displacement, to bring the focus on something else.

It is also possible that he had an erection and didn't want it to be found out. Just possible. I'm not sure this friend is being totally honest about his attraction to Original Poster. Methinks the friend doth protest too much. Just a hunch.

However, Original Poster, I don't think you should make too much of this incident. If you still enjoy his presence and his friendship, just keep chugging along.
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Unread 16th February 2017   #17
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Whether the friend is secretly attracted to the OP doesn't really matter. The friend says he is straight, so the OP has to accept that. I agree with TwistedLeaf that the gf could be planting seeds of suspicion in the friend's mind so that every touch from the OP is seen a sexual, thereby gay.
It's interesting that no matter what is going on here, the friend does not seem to want end the friendship. I think he is just conflicted. I think the OP should keep his hands to himself until the friend lets him know it's okay.
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I don't at all have a problem with him stating his boundaries. I can understand someone not wanting to be groped. I just felt it was out of context. Now I wonder if every time he flinched or moved away from me, did he think I was attempting to grab his cock all along? Is he going to continue to think that? It makes it hard for me to embrace him or even get near him now. It's gonna be in the back of my mind that it's in the back of his mind. Ya know?

And it doesn't make sense, because I've felt his cock on my butt a few times when he's embraced me from behind. I never said anything, but I know if I felt it he certainly did. Why panic now?

This behavior did start when he began dating his gf. There is a possibility she's feeding him BS, but I don't know how. She's never met me and he doesn't talk to me over the phone when she's around. When we're together and she calls, he shushes me til the call ends. Makes me wonder what he told her about me. When i ask him, he just gives me the generic "good friend" crap.

I don't know... I just don't want things to be awkward, but i feel like he made it so when he said that. And I'm trying to figure out if I'm over thinking it?
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Unread 16th February 2017   #19
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He might have just told her that you are gay and she is insecure or maybe she suspects he likes the cock.
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Fuck him, tell him you dont want to grab his little noodle anyway...Remember clown him, down him then get you're whole crew and surround him.
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Unread 17th February 2017   #21
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Im glad to hear, I was trying to make a little funny for everybody to enjoy.
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You 're overthinking it. He said what he said maybe he means it maybe not. You know boys most of the times say things just to say without remembering next day. You will understand his purpose from his actions. First of all you need to clear out to yourself what do you want. Do you like him as a friend only or do you see him in a different way? If you just want to be friends then things are ok and if you want to fullfil sexual phantasies with him wait, chill and go with the flow. Stay as you are and let him have you. Eventually if he wants you he will stick out his baracuda and will say oh it's swollen today man, what do you think?
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Did you resolve this? it sounds like he was scared of you.
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He might have just told her that you are gay and she is insecure or maybe she suspects he likes the cock.
Maybe he does like the cock, I mean, whats not to like?
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Have you grabbed his cock yet?
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you should probably just grab his cock
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