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Unread 27th November 2016   #1
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Ok so I started having sexual relationships with men in late 2008, from then until last month I would never admit to myself that I was actually gay. Now that Im accepting my sexuality some wierd stuff is happening to me. I lost my sex drive and my appetite over the last two weeks and Ive been openly looking at other men. Is it normal, is it just stress?
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Unread 27th November 2016   #2
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I've accepted that I'm attracted to guys, though I haven't had sex with any yet.
But I haven't lost any appetite, and not depressed either.
I wouldn't loose appetite over something like this. I like it, I'm happy that I starting to figure out who I am, and accepting myself more.
Though that's me.
But there's probably something else than that for you. Go talk to someone? Go get yourself checked out at the doctor, just in case.
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Eh I go through cycles I guess... I don't really know what is normal. I do know that with being gay there isn't really a well defined normal. Everyone is a bit different and I think that men specifically being more picky regardless of sexual orientation just adds to the complication.

When I say I go through cycles I go through periods where I'm horny as fuck, then not horny, then at times I question myself...am I really gay, am I making the right choice...yada yada yada...

Everyone has their own journey to discovering themselves....Some take longer, easier, harder...ups and downs.
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It sure sounds like stress. It's pretty normal to feel stress when stuff that has been repressed for so long begins to emerge. Things are alright, just new, and you're getting used to it. As you start to calm down about it, I'll bet your appetite and sex drive will return.
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I think I can go a little longer without the appetite, I could stand to lose a few pounds I figured so, this is all new to me.
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Doc, you mentioned in another thread that you don't look at porn. When you get horny do you just look for a man to take it out on or do you just jack off using your imagination.
I don't know if it is stress, but it does sound psychological. Maybe you are feeling depressed coming to terms with something you have previously been against?
If you are otherwise physically healthy, I'm sure your sex drive will come back soon enough.

Go check out some hot military guys and I'm sure you'll bone up fast.
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I lost my sex drive and my appetite over the last two weeks and Ive been openly looking at other men. Is it normal, is it just stress?
You say you've lost your sex drive yet you're openly looking at other men. Normal for a stressful situation? Sure.

I read in one of your other threads how your Xian friends rib you just for being Catholic. Jesus, Mary, & Joseph. Even I would get a little anxious.
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@NativeSon Xian friends? Im not familiar with the term.

My friends arent bad guys its just a playful ribbing the same way you'd rib someone for being a cowboys fan

I look at men openly now without caring who sees me, but my loins arent stirring if you catch my drift.
Please dont ask me to get more graphic than that
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Doc, you mentioned in another thread that you don't look at porn. When you get horny do you just look for a man to take it out on or do you just jack off using your imagination.
A little bit of both, I travel alot so I meet men when Im out of town, where I can be a little more free with myself. I met a nice young man when I was in Philadelphia visiting friends that was 8 months ago.
@Darius you sure dont shy away from asking bold questions
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@NativeSon Xian friends? Im not familiar with the term.
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X = Christ

Xian = Christian

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@NativeSon Oh my!
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Viagra / Cialis - Cock Ring, shaving your nether regions...
Maybe do some reading. When I 1st came out (was outed). I bought some books on the subject - Joy of Gay Sex, etc.

I'm sure some of our members here could recommend some reading for you.
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Ok so I started having sexual relationships with men in late 2008, from then until last month I would never admit to myself that I was actually gay. Now that Im accepting my sexuality some wierd stuff is happening to me. I lost my sex drive and my appetite over the last two weeks and Ive been openly looking at other men. Is it normal, is it just stress?
I wouldn't worry about it too much. Yes it could have something to do with stress, but it could also have something to do with seasonal changes, but more probably hormones or whatever.

Sex drive will never be understood, but there are definite phases where you couldn't be bothered with it or you could want to fuck a rattle snake with a festy arse...but only if you held it's head.
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Ok so now I have a new problem. After chatting with and PMing with some of you guys, Ive pretty much realized that Im 99% gay and that a woman wont satisfy my needs and it would be unfair to her to waste her time. Thanks for that guys.

My new issue is Im trying to tell people that Im gay, just random people to get used to openly admitting it and I just cant do it. I tried to tell the UPS guy while we were having a conversation about women, I tried telling a guy at the candle store I just cant do it. I wont tell my family those people suck anyway so I couldnt care less. Ive been talking about alot of gay topics with my best friend and I think he's starting to figure it out so thats good. But a gay man just broke his little sisters heart so Im not sure if he is happy with the gays right now. BTW thanks for talking me out of using a girl after seeing the damage it can do first hand I cant believe I even considered it.
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