It makes me sad...

[colinmackay]

With something like religious indoctrination, the only way to bring them to their senses is to place seeds of doubt in their minds with out making them feel like you're attacking their religion.
As most religious people are quite defensive of their faith and wont bother with even a calm polite questioning of their beliefs.

Hopefully we planted a few seeds. We told him that I'd tried the whole being-straight-while-I-was-really-in-denial thing and it how screwed with my head. We didn't push the issue, but he know (at least somewhere) that it can be debilitating and that there is a path out.

I suspect the fact that he popped up after all that time suggests that he may be looking for those seeds. I can't imagine he didn't know my fiancé would attempt to ensure that he is being true to himself. It was my fiancé that helped him come to terms with his sexuality the first time round.