Why be unkind?

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If you're getting physically ill over it - that's not healthy - I just think it seems like it would be easier to try to deal with that in yourself than to try to get everyone else to change their wording. Admittedly, I don't know your situation.

Yes, I have been trying to get over the after affects of trauma for a long time. I have PTSD. I am disabled, and would like to be able to function fully as a member of this community, but I can't, because I get excluded everywhere I go by the use of this word that doesn't describe me. Perhaps one day I will be over it, as I am working on it, but some people never will be and I am fighting for them as well. Just because it would be easier to get over it and stop fighting for those who can't rather than to change general public usage of the language does that mean I should? I don't think so.