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Posted by: InbetweenDreams - 3 hours ago - Forum: Politics / Activism
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I know politics, no matter what the viewpoint is, someone will disagree. I know how heated the discussions have got on GS so I did at least put a "trigger warning," so if politics or the current events are likely to make you upset please, do not read or participate in this thread. You have been warned.
I get that some people do have conservative values, that's fine to have a different opinion. Not going to get into the differences in policies I can accept that people have different views on things. But...
I expect people to be willing intelligent conversation. I expect people to at the very least try to be respectful to each other. If there's anything true about social media, Facebook in this instance, people are anything but. I find it often pointless to try to explain to one of these people who just dismiss everything. So why try right? I usually don't. I am willing to have a conversation but often I see this crap (below).
So a friend of mine posted this meme. I'm not a fan of political memes because they're just shallow, even if I agree with the message.
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I should know better than to go reading comments on political memes but I am always curious. So here's how this meme went down...(names changed, in order in which they were posted)
Charlie
Quote:Please post the incidents that prove these allegations..seriously..dont be part of the problem..
Sherry
Quote:Not enough room on Facebook to post all of the "incidents" that prove it.
Charlie
Quote:yeah, that's a convenient lie..look how much space was used for the accusations..if you can't prove He did those things, then take your dumbass excuse of a brain dead accusations back to your basement
Carl
Quote:I just don’t like him. Plain and simple. However, if I had to give a reason....he’s a bully. That applies to everyone, more so to a person in authority. As president he should be above making fun and teasing folks.
Me
Quote:Just the things he's done since he's been in office? https://theintercept.com/2019/12/19/a-z-...peachment/
Charlie
Quote:that is an entire piece of opinions..jeez
Charlie
Quote:being chastised for being a bully when defending oneself against all the insults he has received is ridiculous, how many lies did you tell in this post? And my friend, have you forgotten what an ass and a bully I can be if pushed?..I cant believe you of all people would judge someone on how to be a president when we both know that neither one of us could have gotten where he is, and I would also think that since he IS the president, whatever moves he makes is therefore presidential..and saying he isnt the proper president after he was voted in legitimately, just means that you dont respect the process, which in turn means you are in the wrong, not Trump..and he has been the underdog from the start..I can't believe you dont like someone that acts just like me..it hurts...
How delusional do you have to be to think all this up? By this guy's logic we should assume any action done by a president we should consider presidential, who cares what it is. So likewise, trying to explain my views and why Trump is a terrible person and so on is a complete waste of time. This guy isn't looking for discussion, he's just trying to piss people off as far as I can tell. I am all for discussing things.
It just blows my mind how this has become the norm. This is apparently what a lot of people think. This is how people approach an "argument." I use quotes because this guy had no intention on searching for the truth, he thinks he has it apparently. Perhaps this is some psychological thing, like the flat earthers who don't actually believe the Earth is flat, they just like pissing the masses off...but in this case they know Trump is an imbecile and unfit for public office but they rather piss off the masses for kicks I guess? It just defies logic otherwise.
I don't get it, all the overt racism, the fact that it exists in this country is embarrassing...land of the free? The willfully ignorant. People who actually buy this and just come in and say "TRUMP 2020!!! WHOOO" just speak volumes about who they are. They'd rather regress to being a caveman than let those lefty sciencey nerds tell us we can't roll coal in our diesel trucks. These type of people just give free speech a bad rap. I mean we're basically making the case for governments like China that democracy doesn't work, freedom of speech needs to be limited, people need to be controlled and told what to do.
It just angers me seeing blatant stupidity, hatred, overt racism and seeing the overall shallowness of some people. I know it isn't everyone and I do know that there are a lot of conservatives in this area and a lot of people do have some backwards views. I think a lot of people at least in this area, white people don't really get what white privilege is all about.
You know there is actually a book about how to win an argument with a "liberal" (actually several of them)... I'm serious.
https://www.amazon.com/How-Fight-Liberal...402265735/
They need a book with someone telling them how to argue. Anyone can be good at arguing, I mean look at how long it took to get cigarettes out of restaurants and schools and warning labels. If you want to learn how to argue go talk to someone who was a spokesperson for a Tobacco company. All you need is a few catch phrases, some anecdotal example to prove a point and sure you can "win" an argument. Doesn't make you right. I mean after all, look at the tobacco companies.
It just drives me crazy, seeing all that has been in the news lately. Police MURDERING black people, white people calling the police on someone for being black and the racist crap being posted on social media. I mean sure, I'm glad these scumbags are being exposed, but why does it exist in the first place. I don't blame it all on Trump, this has had to been here for a while and somehow we're regressing. I don't know what that is, but I wonder if our society is starting to break down. If it is, it is a sad time for the world.
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Posted by: InbetweenDreams - 05-27-2020, 11:40 PM - Forum: Word Games
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So I'll admit that I often will lookup a word to see whatever the definition is. Sometimes I lookup words to see if I am using one in the correct context. Surely I'm not the only person that does this, but I thought it would be interesting to start a thread with either words you looked up, words you find interesting or for whatever reason feel like sharing.
You don't have to follow any particular format, you can choose to include the definition or not, how you used it or something else...doesn't really matter.
Anyway, a few years ago my boss used the word conundrum.
Not sure if at that point I had heard it and although I didn't know for sure you can sometimes tell what a word means most likely depending on the context it was used. He does like using unusual words, sometimes all together, to mess with people and it is entertaining to watch when people are like "what?"
In case anyone isn't familiar with that word, a conundrum is a confusing or difficult problem, and we do often face those in the IT world. Perhaps that should be my response to people when they ask why something can't work the way they envision it....it's a conundrum.
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| Cheating boyfriend - just venting if someone's willing to listen |
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Posted by: FlyFlyHighUp - 05-24-2020, 03:17 PM - Forum: Need Your Advice
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I don’t really know why I’m writing all this. I guess it's not a very good idea to make your first thread about something bad but I just need to tell it someone, to vent and get it off my chest. These are all recent events, everything is still very fresh and I might be a little emotional.
My boyfriend and I were together for 12 years until recently, when I found out he’s been cheating on me for quite a long time. And I found out about it in the most ironic way possible – his lover paid me a visit to talk to me about letting my boyfriend go. Actually, this whole thing is quite complicated because I wasn’t the only person my boyfriend lied to, but I’ll get to that eventually.
When this guy appeared on my doorstep, I didn’t understand anything. I had never seen him before but he knew who I was though, he was calling me by my first name and he was kinda surprised I knew nothing about him and that my boyfriend hadn’t told me anything about him. He then told me that he and my boyfriend, they’re dating for HALF A YEAR and he has come to talk to me man to man about this situation we’re in.
I was furious at first, I couldn't believe it, I was yelling at this guy to get out of my house and he admitted that dating a guy who’s in relationship with someone else wasn’t the best thing to do but he told me to face the reality once and for all and that he knows all about our relationship, proceeding to tell me things I heard the first time in my life.
He told me that my boyfriend and I, we don’t talk to each other for 2 years, don’t sleep with each other for even longer and that I’m very sick and my boyfriend must take care of me and that’s why he cannot break up with me and go live with him. My boyfriend told him all those things about me, things that are completely false – I’m not sick, we talked to each other and slept with each other every single day. We had a normal, loving ( or so I thought ) relationship. So basically my boyfriend was lying to his lover as well about the situation he had with me. He was lying to both of us.
Hearing all this was just heartbreaking to me. I was such an idiot that I trusted my boyfriend completely and here is his lover in front of me. It was devastating to see how good he knows our house. While talking to him, I accidentally spilled some water on the floor and he simply got up and went to grab a towel. He knew where every single thing was in this house which means that he has been here a lot.
While I was at work (my absence was explained to the lover as me being in the hospital), thinking that my boyfriend is waiting for me, he was spending time in our bed with his lover. And this guy was so determined, he was begging me to let my boyfriend go because he loves him so much and he’s tired of living this way, he wants him for himself only. And in a way, I could understand him. In his place, I also wouldn’t want to share a man with someone else.
Later I confronted my boyfriend who first denied everything but when he realized his lover actually came to see me, he finally confessed. His explanation was that one person cannot possess all the qualities necessary for a successful relationship and that he needs both of us in his life in order to feel happy and content. When he spends some time with me, he misses his lover and when he spends some time with his lover, he misses me. He said he loves me but me alone is not enough for him. That’s the bullshit he needs.
He wanted me to agree to have an open relationship, I was like – what do you mean? First, I don’t do open relationships to begin with, second, your lover apparently doesn't either, he wants you for himself only and, third, I don’t want you at all anymore after what you’ve done.
We were living in his apartment, so I packed my stuff and left. He keeps calling me but this thing is over. He hurt me a lot and it’s painful to realize that 10 years spent in a relationship are down the drain now and meant nothing to him. I trusted him, all these years I thought he’s an honest, loyal man who respects me.
I feel like such a total idiot. How could I be so stupid and not realize he had a lover? He was cheating on me for half a year, not one day, not one week, not one month – half a year – and I had no idea. He came home to me every evening, we slept in the same bed every night. No suspicion, none.
If there was a problem, if there was something he wasn’t satisfied with, why not come to me and talk about it? That’s what couples do, they communicate. Why lie, why cheat? I don’t understand it. And no, I wouldn't have agreed to any kind of group activities but if it was that important to him and he wanted to break up over it, at least it would have happened without lies.
Anyway, I don’t know what’s going to happen between him and that guy and I honestly don’t care. The dude wanted me to let him go, well, I have now. There is no way back to me for him, so he can do whatever he wants now.
I’ll need some time to heal myself, I'm in a very dark place now. When you're together with someone for that long, you grow with that person and your lives become entwined with one another. And then, when you suddenly don't see him anymore and don't talk to him, it feels as if a chunk of me has been ripped out. I have never been hurt like this ever.
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| Off The Cuff - Chuck's Poems |
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Posted by: CellarDweller - 05-24-2020, 05:41 AM - Forum: Poems/Stories/Lyrics
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Hello!
I've written poems over the years, and realized that I've never shared any of them here, so I've decided to change that.
I'll be using this thread to post some of what I've done. The thread title, "Off the Cuff", refers to an activity I used to do with my poetry. Friends would issue me a "challenge" to write a poem on a theme they've suggested, and within 20 minutes I would reply with a poem based on that theme.
Most of my stuff tends to be "rhymey" or "sing-song" style. If I try to write something that doesn't rhyme, I find I have to focus more on it to make it convey the message I want.
Feel free to comment on any of the poems here, just keep in mind that I'm not claiming to be great at it.
Also, keep in mind that a large number of these poems are old, some perhaps about 12 years old, so I am not in that head space any more. So if I post something and your initial response is "oh, I hope he's OK!" just bear in mind that these post were originally written years ago.
now, onto the first poem.
In the Shadows
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In the shadows is where I stand
As I hold my heart in hand
Wishing you would come to see
That what you want is here with me
I make you laugh, I make you smile
We talk for hours, we walk for miles
You tell me dreams, you tell me plans
But what I want is to be your man
Good times for us would never end
But when you see me, you see "friend"
For you, I feel there is no other
But you say I'm like a brother
So I hold back how I feel
not being 100% real
'Cause I'd rather have you as a friend
Than scare you off in the end
Some days it's fine, don't really care
That it's just friendship we share
And other days, well, let's just say
I wish you'd come around to stay.
In the shadows is where I stand
As I hold my heart in hand
I sense you are a special guy
But waiting for you makes my heart cry
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| I'll write you a short story |
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Posted by: Chase - 05-23-2020, 10:39 PM - Forum: Poems/Stories/Lyrics
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Have any ideas for a situation you think would make for an interesting story?
You winning the lottery? Your dog gaining the ability to talk? Trump getting abducted by aliens?
Shoot me your suggestions, and I'll post a short story. Don't expect a best seller, this will be for laughs and giggles.
Keep in mind I don't write in 3rd person omniscient ("little did he know") but either in 3rd limited or 1st person, so it'd either be written through the main character's perspective, or in a limited cinematic "lens." Once again, don't expect a best seller, and I'll do my best to crank it out in a timely manner and keep it short enough to not go over the character limits.
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| Hi from an actual first time user |
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Posted by: Tjemka88 - 05-23-2020, 05:53 PM - Forum: Introduce Yourself
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Just wanted to say hi to everyone. I have never used sites like this one before and honestly, don't know what I expect from being here but here I am.
I'm in my thirties and come from quite a homophobic place, so I'm still in the closet. Spent seven years in prison, came out last year, and have been trying to rebuild my life ever since. (No worries, I haven't killed or raped anyone).
I'm quite a typical Scorpio - passionate, independent, and unafraid to blaze my own trail no matter what others think. I'm hardworking, tough, and thick-skinned. I love cats, dark nights, sunsets/sunrises, winters/falls and cute guys
Feel free to ask if you want to know anything else!
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| Conspiracy Theories |
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Posted by: InbetweenDreams - 05-23-2020, 01:36 PM - Forum: Psychology
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Alright folks get ready...
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I don't have a problem with conspiracy theories. Some are harmless, some are entertaining, some of them actually have some merit. Then there are some that can be debunked by a 5th grader, some that can be harmful. For instance the people who think you get COVID-19 from wearing masks, it doesn't even make sense and you have to wonder where do they get the idea that something like that could be true. A lot of people are getting these idea from social media but again you wonder how do they conclude this could be true. There's no point in trying to explain that they're wrong and that people wear masks everyday.
The responses I usually get from people who argue that their conspiracy theory are something along the lines that people can believe what they want or that I'm a sheep. Sure people can believe what they want, I suppose people can believe what they want but when it is something like believing the Earth is flat or you get COVID-19 from wearing a mask, or they're making chem trails, do we have have the duty to try to explain to these people that they're wrong and here's why?
People should ask questions but people aren't willing to do the research to find the answer. I don't know who spreads these untested theories or why the flourish the way they do, although that would be the psychology part. Perhaps it is a coping mechanism. Then you do have those people who spread it knowing it's nonsense.
The more recent encounter I had was someone going on about why haven't we seen any chem trails lately? One being of course that chem trails aren't real and two due to the travel restrictions there have been way less planes flying. Going back to the fact that chem trails aren't real. People don't know or realize that burning jet fuel one of the by-products in the exhaust is in fact water. The other thing people don't know or realize that at 40,000 ft (about 12,000 meters) it is usually very cold. What happens when you have hot and humid air come into contact with cold air? It condensates, making water vapor and that is the trail that you see left behind jets and planes. This is true with car exhaust on cold mornings, the burning of gasoline in conjunction with catalytic converters water is a by-product of car exhaust. I suppose one could make the argument that they're putting the "chemicals" in the fuel as a means to spread the poison. Firstly, the whole idea that people would spread poison is insane, why poison the people who are trying to poison the people...you're exposing everyone. Secondly, even if you filled a plane up to its maximum payload with whatever stuff you believe is being used, at 40,000 ft nearly all of it would be dispersed and mixed with the air at level that would be nearly undetectable. Let's dig deeper. The common belief is that chem trails have "barium and aluminum salts, polymer fibers, thorium, or silicon carbide" in them. Let's pick on barium. The safe limit of exposure of barium (oral exposure) is 0.5 mg/cubic meter. That's not the lethal dose, but anything over that would likely cause GI issues and so on. So how much barium would someone need to load on a plane flying at 40,000 ft to poison you? Understand that winds, the speed in which the plane is traveling will greatly increase the area in which you would hypothetically cover. While inverse square law and the fourth square law don't exactly apply here the same principle would apply. You would need an astronomical amount of barium or whatever it is to be more than just barely detectable on the ground. The other thing to consider is running this stuff through a jet engine probably isn't very good for the jet engines. Barium can be kind of corrosive and I don't know about you but if I were a pilot I sure as heck wouldn't want to be flying that plane.
Ok, so now that I got done with that little rant. I'm not sure what the psychology is behind people believing in things that can be debunked. It is both kind of scary and infuriating to see so many people incapable and unwilling to think. Even for Buzz Aldrin....
He should have got another lick in...
Again, not sure what the psychology is behind this. I have read that it is stress induced and people seeking attention. It's all fun and games when it is just that, but when you have massive numbers of people buying into this stuff and aren't either willing or capable of critical thinking I really wonder if we're headed back to the caves. We have got to educate people better. I don't know what the situation is in other countries, but in the US it really is a problem. I went to high school with someone who apparently couldn't point out North American on an atlas. I don't know if they were just trying to get attention but either way that's not a good way to go about getting it.
I'll leave it at that for now.
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