Bottoming = Feminine?

[hamsandwizh]

I both bottom and top, although I prefer to bottom and if we are going to switch it up I make sure I am bottom first then I'll top him because I wanna make sure I get mine first! lol. But I am not feminine acting at all, in fact no one really knows I'm gay at all unless I'm with another guy or I say something about it. One of my closest friends I've known for years asked me yesterday when I knew I was gay and I told him I pretty much figured it out in 7th grade but I didn't really wanna be (at the time) and didn't know how people would react so I didn't act on it until about 4 years ago and I didn't tell any of my friends or family until a year or so ago. He said I hid it well, he had no idea.

But I think I know what you're saying. When I meet a feminine guy I typically assume he is a bottom. I have to stop myself and think, well, no, most people don't think I'm gay and when they find out I am they assume I'm a top, so doesn't make it so. But at least in society it seems if a guy is acting "feminine" then he is considered a bottom. Doesn't really make it so but that's what is assumed.