08-26-2012, 07:29 PM
Ah yes, that makes sense.
Victims of domestic violence tend to fall for abusers as well.
I'm not saying gays are the same as abuse, what I'm saying is that we all tend to fall for certain personae and characters, minor traits and habits we associate with our ideal 'mate'.
For me with abusers, I am attracted to huge egos and dominating personalities, unfortunately for me more often than not those huge egos and dominating personalities tie in with the whole abuse = power/dominance mentality. It took a few failed relationships and more hours on a therapists couch than I care to think about to figure out what it was that got be involved with the same kind of man.
What is the attraction to gay men? Most likely the sensitivity and more connectivity to their emotions. Most (not all) gay men are more connected to their emotional side than straight men. Most (not all) women want a man to be more connected (Thus the metro-sexual fad).
Victims of domestic violence tend to fall for abusers as well.
I'm not saying gays are the same as abuse, what I'm saying is that we all tend to fall for certain personae and characters, minor traits and habits we associate with our ideal 'mate'.
For me with abusers, I am attracted to huge egos and dominating personalities, unfortunately for me more often than not those huge egos and dominating personalities tie in with the whole abuse = power/dominance mentality. It took a few failed relationships and more hours on a therapists couch than I care to think about to figure out what it was that got be involved with the same kind of man.
What is the attraction to gay men? Most likely the sensitivity and more connectivity to their emotions. Most (not all) gay men are more connected to their emotional side than straight men. Most (not all) women want a man to be more connected (Thus the metro-sexual fad).
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