09-07-2012, 06:41 AM
10 days and you two are already 'arguing' over infantile stuff?
1. If he is very straight acting, which I will assume means 'masculine' then he might not be all into the emotional chit chat crap you emotional types are into.
If he is 'manly manish' then most likely he isn't going to want to talk about emotions. Period. Nor is he going to react to sad things with sadness he will react with anger. Or fearful things with fear, he will react with anger. He is a man, men don't cry, men don't fear.
2. Telling someone to do something sounds remarkably like an order. Thus telling him to eat something when he is most likely angry (sad over his sister, worried over his sister - it all is translated and expressed as anger) is going to lead to real anger.
3. "Damn Zed for once grow up!" What the???? You two have only been a couple for 10 days - you act like you have been together for ten years and you know how he typically behaves inside and out.
4. You both need to take those cell phones to the nearest river and throw them both into the fricking river!
Text messaging for important, emotional crap is the very worst thing you or anyone else can do. This sort of conversation needs to be done face to face, with full attention to where you can hear each others voices.
Sarcasm, humor and other things don't play over text. Most people rarely say what is completely on their mind, so we rely on body language, facial expressions and tone of voice to relay tons of data that a text message can never, ever, ever relay.
5. Your downtime? Your needs? Seriously was it your sister at ER probably close to death with a very real chance that things could have gone badly?
10 days and you are all about 'me, me, me'.
10 days and you need 'down time' ?
10 days? Just ten measly 24 hour periods....
In all honesty I can't see this relationship going far... Sorry.
1. If he is very straight acting, which I will assume means 'masculine' then he might not be all into the emotional chit chat crap you emotional types are into.
If he is 'manly manish' then most likely he isn't going to want to talk about emotions. Period. Nor is he going to react to sad things with sadness he will react with anger. Or fearful things with fear, he will react with anger. He is a man, men don't cry, men don't fear.
2. Telling someone to do something sounds remarkably like an order. Thus telling him to eat something when he is most likely angry (sad over his sister, worried over his sister - it all is translated and expressed as anger) is going to lead to real anger.
3. "Damn Zed for once grow up!" What the???? You two have only been a couple for 10 days - you act like you have been together for ten years and you know how he typically behaves inside and out.
4. You both need to take those cell phones to the nearest river and throw them both into the fricking river!
Text messaging for important, emotional crap is the very worst thing you or anyone else can do. This sort of conversation needs to be done face to face, with full attention to where you can hear each others voices.
Sarcasm, humor and other things don't play over text. Most people rarely say what is completely on their mind, so we rely on body language, facial expressions and tone of voice to relay tons of data that a text message can never, ever, ever relay.
5. Your downtime? Your needs? Seriously was it your sister at ER probably close to death with a very real chance that things could have gone badly?
10 days and you are all about 'me, me, me'.
10 days and you need 'down time' ?
10 days? Just ten measly 24 hour periods....
In all honesty I can't see this relationship going far... Sorry.
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