09-07-2012, 08:03 AM
Yesterday, his sister was rushed to the hospital coz of appendicitis.
I know he aint doing well, and I know I had to say something to comfort him, but I didn't know what to say
There is the core of your problem....if you dont' have natural empathy you can develop some by practicing placing yourself in the other person's shoes and imagining what kind of comfort or words you would appreciate. It really is important and emotional support is an essential ingredient to any relationship.
Got a reply from him, he said, "I've been cheering you up all day long.
This suggests to me he resents cheering you up...when it is HE who needs cheering up. Again...empathy...you need to develop some....
That's my tip. I think you need to address this ASAP before you worry about anything else.
Good Luck
mile:
I know he aint doing well, and I know I had to say something to comfort him, but I didn't know what to say
There is the core of your problem....if you dont' have natural empathy you can develop some by practicing placing yourself in the other person's shoes and imagining what kind of comfort or words you would appreciate. It really is important and emotional support is an essential ingredient to any relationship.
Got a reply from him, he said, "I've been cheering you up all day long.
This suggests to me he resents cheering you up...when it is HE who needs cheering up. Again...empathy...you need to develop some....
That's my tip. I think you need to address this ASAP before you worry about anything else.
Good Luck
mile:
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