09-27-2012, 06:38 PM
My father's 4th wife relied heavily on lies to survive her marriage.
She was always having me lie about stuff in order to keep my father 'serene' and 'peaceful'.
Why? Because when my father got a wild hair up his arse he would throw fits, throw objects, throw people. He often had wild hairs... too often.
Perhaps your mom is lying and doing a lot of stuff because she is in an abusive relationship? It doesn't have to be hitting to be abusive, there are many forms of abuse.
I suspect there may be a lot more behind her behaviors than just an intent to screw you over. her behaviors sound like a person who is trying to protect herself and her children, yes that can lead to unusual, or odd, seemingly destructive behaviors (such as taking all your money).
Christmas season is right around the corner. Around Halloween stores start hiring seasonal help for the Christmas season. Now is actually a good time to start papering stores (dropping off applications, resumes and the like) in order to secure a seasonal position.
When you get such a job, they often can be worked into permanent positions. You only have to be on the ball and show up (never call in sick during seasonal work) and be willing and able to show up at a moments notice.
Since you are not enrolled in school currently, now is a great time to consider doing full-time work. Squirrel away money.
Most jobs now have direct deposit pay-checks. Meaning instead of handing you over a paper slip that you convert to cash, they electronically deposit money into an account. Go to a local bank and ask them what it takes to set-up an account.
Once you have money going into a bank account it becomes much harder for people to get money out of you.
DO set aside a reasonable amount of money from each check to pay for your room board.
I think the best person to discuss the financial aspect is not your mom, but your step father. Once you have the job pull him aside and ask how much he wants for room and board.
It is a step in the right direction, and only a step.
She was always having me lie about stuff in order to keep my father 'serene' and 'peaceful'.
Why? Because when my father got a wild hair up his arse he would throw fits, throw objects, throw people. He often had wild hairs... too often.
Perhaps your mom is lying and doing a lot of stuff because she is in an abusive relationship? It doesn't have to be hitting to be abusive, there are many forms of abuse.
I suspect there may be a lot more behind her behaviors than just an intent to screw you over. her behaviors sound like a person who is trying to protect herself and her children, yes that can lead to unusual, or odd, seemingly destructive behaviors (such as taking all your money).
Christmas season is right around the corner. Around Halloween stores start hiring seasonal help for the Christmas season. Now is actually a good time to start papering stores (dropping off applications, resumes and the like) in order to secure a seasonal position.
When you get such a job, they often can be worked into permanent positions. You only have to be on the ball and show up (never call in sick during seasonal work) and be willing and able to show up at a moments notice.
Since you are not enrolled in school currently, now is a great time to consider doing full-time work. Squirrel away money.
Most jobs now have direct deposit pay-checks. Meaning instead of handing you over a paper slip that you convert to cash, they electronically deposit money into an account. Go to a local bank and ask them what it takes to set-up an account.
Once you have money going into a bank account it becomes much harder for people to get money out of you.
DO set aside a reasonable amount of money from each check to pay for your room board.
I think the best person to discuss the financial aspect is not your mom, but your step father. Once you have the job pull him aside and ask how much he wants for room and board.
It is a step in the right direction, and only a step.
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