08-31-2014, 12:55 AM
Keith Wrote:I am sorry if i said something rude, i did not mean to belittle open relationship. Just i am curious and I do not understand how it works.
If you'd really like to know more about how it works then I highly recommend this book (I know at least one library has it, or did anyway):
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Ethical_Slut
All in all, it depends on temperament. I know one (straight) guy who'd always feel trapped so he went to a polyamorous model of relationships (not to be confused with "open relationship") and it worked, though of course he had to share as well (the way he described it was he was a "friends with benefit" with certain women who were in another relationship that wasn't fully satisfying to them emotionally and/or sexually but refusing to leave it for some reason or another). It had its flaws, but not as many as a monogamous one did for him. In contrast, I know of a woman just like him but she insists on monogamy, but she always gets bored/feels trapped and cheats as monogamy isn't for her. Likewise, some can find economic benefits in some types of polyamorous relationships as well, and economics reasons tend to be as compelling as romantic and sexual ones.
As for me I always wanted to try it but none of my partners did (not even the serial cheater) so it's not an experience of mine.