How can I become comfortable being gay?

[Hellie]

Hello Hellie and welcome. It sounds like the fundamental thing might be to try getting out a bit more and just making a few friends. If you find a few of those just happen to be gay, bisexual or lesbian that would be a bit of a bonus.

I know. I had a gay friend back in high school but I wasn't "out" and he was so I could never form that close bond with him like I wanted. So that relationship, unfortunately, didn't help me be more comfortable with myself because I was too busy hiding who I was. And now, we've lost touch after college.

But yes, I definitely want to form relationships with gay men and women. That is something I know is really important.

I found talking to a counsellor helped me find the language that was not in my vocabulary to help me come better to terms with my sexuality.

May I ask, how exactly did you approach your counselor? Meaning, what did you ask him/her when discussing this topic?

Thank you! mile: