05-14-2020, 01:30 AM
I just want to add one thing. I've been on the other side of the equation...being cheated on by my husband. I can't even begin to describe the pain, anger, frustration, emotional turmoil, depression...and the blow to my self-esteem. We're older and had been together longer, though I don't know if that makes a difference. Do you even care about what your husband is going to go through?
The fallout was horrific and affected both of our families and many of our friends. We've been separated 3 years and now he says he regrets the things he did (it wasn't just one guy, I think he screwed every gay guy in Boston at least once). But I won't ever trust him again.
If he had just come to me, talked to me, told me that he wanted sex with a lot of people we could have talked about it and avoided all of the drama and misery. I might not have agreed, but at least I'd have had a choice. The lying and the deception hurt me more than the fact he had sex with others. TALK to your husband.
The fallout was horrific and affected both of our families and many of our friends. We've been separated 3 years and now he says he regrets the things he did (it wasn't just one guy, I think he screwed every gay guy in Boston at least once). But I won't ever trust him again.
If he had just come to me, talked to me, told me that he wanted sex with a lot of people we could have talked about it and avoided all of the drama and misery. I might not have agreed, but at least I'd have had a choice. The lying and the deception hurt me more than the fact he had sex with others. TALK to your husband.
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