What's on Your Mind

[InbetweenDreams]

@InbetweenDreams so sorry about your troubles. You have quite the fight ahead of you. To your parents you will always be their child, they know better, they don’t take their offspring’s advice seriously. Are there any siblings or other relatives of your parents generation who could help you, putting some sense into their heads? Their friends?

Only my sister and they do tend to listen to her somewhat. It's more that they're stubborn, like how a 5 year old won't eat their broccoli. In the case of my dad, I don't think his doctor really has explained to him how big of a deal kidney disease is...he basically eats like a 5 year old....Some of the shit he calls a meal is something you could imagine a kid eating. I mean not everything is awful but some things he has you wonder, how do you even like that?! The problem is mostly that my dad likes to have fried foods, hamburgers and stuff like bratwurst and all the time. Very little in the way of vegetables and what little there is it is usually fried. Also, since my dad often is the one cooking, god help us, that is what my mom eats and apparently no one ever asked what they eat or advised her on the seriousness of her kidney disease....You don't get a GFR of 58 overnight. Truth is, I am kind of in the dark on their health issues as it sort isn't my business but I feel like the doctor they see isn't pumping the brakes. I don't know if it is because the doctor knows they don't care or if they're missing the giant elephant in the room. As for my mom, I think she doesn't care anymore. She has a lot of health issues already and let's just say my dad is a pain in the ass to deal with and she's tired of it. Losing mobility due to RA and COPD kind of makes you not care so much....

I do hope she recovers of course but it looks like she's close to needing dialysis and will need in home care according to the doctors. Don't know much more details unless someone calls. Getting info from my mom is difficult as she's not quite with it, has difficulty with clarity of thought it seems.