Annoyance...

[InbetweenDreams]

He does like the animals but doesn't like the place he's at and yep I've suggested other animal hospitals, other positions, school. He doesn't really know enough about how to fix cars (I had to explain to him how to properly check transmission fluid, like you have to have the car running and in park, etc), so he often buys them and then takes them to a mechanic to fix and so yeah, not going to be very economical. I mean even if you found a barn find where the car has 10,000 original miles you're not going to drive away in it.

Oh and by all means I can think of worse things. If that were the case I would not bother bringing it up on the forums. Then again, maybe it is just I need to think it all through.

The thing is, in order to put everything in the right perspective I have to basically describe the entire relationship, him, his history of things, and perhaps that gets too personal. Like if I just say he buys old cars and so on that doesn't put it all into perspective. I have to talk about how he's also into antiques and has pretty much filled up his parents house with old console radios (some work, some don't) and can't hardly get through the hallway. It's not bad to like antiques or old cars, but because he's not fully invested in the hobbies, like he likes old clocks....but he just doesn't know how to fix them and has to pay to have someone else fix it.

About the cars, here's an example, he bought a 1991 Buick LeSabre for $600, owned by an old lady, original owner, sounds like it might be a good car but, granny wrecked it into the garage and has done some damage to it (I haven't seen it yet), he has a mechanic "do service" on it which included changing the transmission fluid. Well turns out the fluid that came out was dark because the clutches and bands are chewed up and now the transmission slips... It costs $1500 to have the transmission rebuilt and it is unknown if there are other major mechanical problems. He has another 1990 Buick LeSabre that has no brakes, paid like $1,100 for it and had to have it towed to his house, wasn't even able to drive it home. He's got others, which do drive, but he seems to want to keep buying them and not fix or improve the ones he has. That's what I have trouble with. I know he really like the cars, hell I like them too. My family had a 1989 Buick Electra and it is just like all those cars but I would not buy one without thoroughly going through it and being able to drive it or know for sure that I could fix the problem easily. He just doesn't check what he's buying, I know because I asked him, did you check the oil? Check for leaks? No...

That all being said, he's a sweet guy and I do like him a lot and has a lot of good thing about him but I do worry about that, not that I have any right to tell him what he can or can't do. Just like his job situation, only he can do something about it. I once dated a guy back in 2009, he delivered papers for the Atlanta Journal and well we all know what happened to getting newspapers delivered, it pretty much stopped. I don't know if anyone still gets newspapers delivered but up here in the sticks they stopped doing it so he lost his job. It was a really bad time to lose your job too... I tried to help him, I picked up job applications and helped look for jobs... You know what he did? He couldn't be bothered to fill out the job applications, couldn't read his handwriting. I explained to him that with there being so few jobs right now that they'll just toss this shit in the trash. I mean I get that some people have bad handwriting, I have bad handwriting, but its like no care was taken. Or maybe I'm an asshole or need better judgement, I don't know.