Annoyance...
Leo
09-19-2021, 05:28 AM
@calgor I don't think that is exactly what is going on with him and here's why... I think whatever happened when he was put under anesthesia at the dentist is what really caused him problems with panic attacks and so forth. His doctor wanted to put him on disability but he didn't want to do that. Then again you might be right too but that's not the first thing that jumps out at me. I think it is anxiety and other part is simply not having to "adult" because of his parents. A lot of "kids" are staying at home with their parents, good or bad, but that has become more normal since rent is insanely expensive and wages haven't moved in 15 years...that and a lot of people are going through college, like he did, and not getting jobs when in college. I think that and this anesthesia thing has got him a late start on life...
I think what I need is for him to show me that he can make the hard choice when he needs too. I just was on the phone with him and kind of rinse and repeat. We talked about jobs and how I had been asking him since July about looking for jobs. I helped him make an account on Indeed, all he's got to do is login and look... He told me "I know" and that he's got to do it at his pace, I asked him what his pace was. I'm not trying to make fun of him but spending an hour on the computer to update your resume and references, look at a few jobs does not take 3 months. He didn't really do much today, because I asked him. I get that whole feeling of "when the time is right," but c'mon.
That all being said, I have my own mess. Or rather I made a mess and now dealing with said mess.... I suppose I'm on my way but likewise I could have made more progress by now if I didn't go into the deep end on every hobby I pick up. That has got to be one of the worst things about me, but also good? Anyway, I'm a whole nother subject. But that's why I have a hard time with being more direct or putting the line in the sand, I kind of empathize with him on the anxiety stuff and why and how it can hold people back, particularly when they have a safe place to default back to.
I think what I need is for him to show me that he can make the hard choice when he needs too. I just was on the phone with him and kind of rinse and repeat. We talked about jobs and how I had been asking him since July about looking for jobs. I helped him make an account on Indeed, all he's got to do is login and look... He told me "I know" and that he's got to do it at his pace, I asked him what his pace was. I'm not trying to make fun of him but spending an hour on the computer to update your resume and references, look at a few jobs does not take 3 months. He didn't really do much today, because I asked him. I get that whole feeling of "when the time is right," but c'mon.
That all being said, I have my own mess. Or rather I made a mess and now dealing with said mess.... I suppose I'm on my way but likewise I could have made more progress by now if I didn't go into the deep end on every hobby I pick up. That has got to be one of the worst things about me, but also good? Anyway, I'm a whole nother subject. But that's why I have a hard time with being more direct or putting the line in the sand, I kind of empathize with him on the anxiety stuff and why and how it can hold people back, particularly when they have a safe place to default back to.
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