Husbands and their porn habits?

[PettyPet]

I have been with my husband for over 30 years now .

My suggestion - share it with him. My husband has a turn on that doesn't particularly turn me on BUT - HE turns me on so I get into it with him. It doesn't threaten me at all.

Fantasies are natural and normal but the shame associated with anything sexual in our much too puritanical society is alive and well so alot of times people feel they need to hide it from their partners and they shame and guilt themselves.

I've tried that several times but he never wants to engage in watching porn together. It's always responses like not this time or let's do it next time. What do you think I should do? I'm trying hard to understand but I feel locked out of something.