11-22-2010, 01:58 PM
Hi Ridin_solo,
oooh, this old chestnut again... I think most of the angles have been covered here, I'm a little late replying.
Is there a chance that i am not meant to enjoy being penetrated? It's not so much a case of destiny as preference through trying. If you keep trying and it's really not working for you and causing you pain, I would agree. But just to repeat other members on this forum, there are a lot of factors - (lol okay, here goes) I have a dildo that is made from latex, and when I used to use it I got that same pain/feeling that was much different to sex. It could be a reaction to the material in your condoms, also spermicide coatings in condoms apparently can irritate you back there.
Can your partner with a big penis damage you anal tissues or generally harm you? there is slightly more potential there if he's really big, but almost anyone can hurt you by going in too soon, being too rough; they're less manageable obviously.
And now the good stuff - Personally I think being penetrated and worked well is orgasmic :tongue: not literally, but I came close to cumming hands-free the other day after a really good session. When I first started out it hurt because I just wasn't used to it, but the fact that I wanted it so bad and fantasised about it was a major piece of the jigsaw. If you're not sure about it and just fooling around, I can see how you might be unsure about it. Relaxation, desire, and a caring partner will help with all of these.
Isnt it better to fuck than to get fucked? I don't know ^^ I love 'em both depending on my mood. There's nothign quite like being pinned down and having some rough submissive sex with someone who knows what you like and what your boundaries are, but then I'm weird and always enjoyed being dominated ith a small D... Fucking is harder work, and there's more pressure on you to perform. It does however let you ride the selfish line if you want and really just get yourself off; throwing around young twinky guys is fun too, these are all really questions of preference. I'm versatile.
hope these helped a little. Most of the forum members have given pretty sound advice here, and I'd be looking at changing your rubbers and possibly toys to NON-LATEX if possible.
And also- sure, you have every right not to like it
it's not essential and there's a whole lot else you can do to keep your partner happy.
oooh, this old chestnut again... I think most of the angles have been covered here, I'm a little late replying.
Is there a chance that i am not meant to enjoy being penetrated? It's not so much a case of destiny as preference through trying. If you keep trying and it's really not working for you and causing you pain, I would agree. But just to repeat other members on this forum, there are a lot of factors - (lol okay, here goes) I have a dildo that is made from latex, and when I used to use it I got that same pain/feeling that was much different to sex. It could be a reaction to the material in your condoms, also spermicide coatings in condoms apparently can irritate you back there.
Can your partner with a big penis damage you anal tissues or generally harm you? there is slightly more potential there if he's really big, but almost anyone can hurt you by going in too soon, being too rough; they're less manageable obviously.
And now the good stuff - Personally I think being penetrated and worked well is orgasmic :tongue: not literally, but I came close to cumming hands-free the other day after a really good session. When I first started out it hurt because I just wasn't used to it, but the fact that I wanted it so bad and fantasised about it was a major piece of the jigsaw. If you're not sure about it and just fooling around, I can see how you might be unsure about it. Relaxation, desire, and a caring partner will help with all of these.
Isnt it better to fuck than to get fucked? I don't know ^^ I love 'em both depending on my mood. There's nothign quite like being pinned down and having some rough submissive sex with someone who knows what you like and what your boundaries are, but then I'm weird and always enjoyed being dominated ith a small D... Fucking is harder work, and there's more pressure on you to perform. It does however let you ride the selfish line if you want and really just get yourself off; throwing around young twinky guys is fun too, these are all really questions of preference. I'm versatile.
hope these helped a little. Most of the forum members have given pretty sound advice here, and I'd be looking at changing your rubbers and possibly toys to NON-LATEX if possible.
And also- sure, you have every right not to like it
it's not essential and there's a whole lot else you can do to keep your partner happy.
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