07-23-2014, 01:18 PM
I'm really struggling and I need someone to talk to, I'm 28 and about 2 months ago I realised I wanted to marry my gf of 3 years but I had never fully explored my gay side, I new there was always something there I just always ignored it because it scared me. But I began to be worried that I might end up 40/50 and realise I waisted my life and leave a family heart broken!
I decided to look into meeting up with a random for a casual meet to find out once and for all. I explain everything before we did so everyone was on the level.
I had decided that no matter what the outcome if I enjoyed it or not I would still go on to propose to my gf because I would know either way. I had a whole list of things I wanted to do to make sure I had sampled enough to know if I was gay or not (sex wasn't on the list) I figured if I only did certain things then I could go away and decide that it would t actually mean anything! And I would have to go thro it again!
Anyway I met the guy, I took round some beers we had a laugh, he was just like me , masculine, common interests, I really enjoyed myself, like meeting a new friend! Then he made a move and we snogged, no pressure from His side we had agreed to both being versatile before as it would give me more room to try different things.
He controlled the things we did to a degree and luckily this included everything on my list still no sex. We laid together after and I asked about feedback on what he thought of me and if I seemed to be enjoying it and if I seemed to get into it that sort of thing.
I left that night with a massive grin on my face! And I've been back 5/6 times since and we've ticket off everything else off the list including just chilling with each other cuddling and watching tv having meals together. We really like each other and it's not one sided!
We decided to take a break of a week because our emotions were both crazy for each other, after that we came back and both hit it off again! A week later we decide to date a longer break and if our feelings for each other are still as strong then we do
Something about it. I break up with my gf and we date properly no running around and no cheating!
I still love my gf but I'm crazy about this guy, it scares me more because if I don't go with him now I'll always regret it but my gf is perfect! I really cannot fault her! I would be happy either way and I'll regret not doing whatever I choose not to do!
Any help would be useful!
I decided to look into meeting up with a random for a casual meet to find out once and for all. I explain everything before we did so everyone was on the level.
I had decided that no matter what the outcome if I enjoyed it or not I would still go on to propose to my gf because I would know either way. I had a whole list of things I wanted to do to make sure I had sampled enough to know if I was gay or not (sex wasn't on the list) I figured if I only did certain things then I could go away and decide that it would t actually mean anything! And I would have to go thro it again!
Anyway I met the guy, I took round some beers we had a laugh, he was just like me , masculine, common interests, I really enjoyed myself, like meeting a new friend! Then he made a move and we snogged, no pressure from His side we had agreed to both being versatile before as it would give me more room to try different things.
He controlled the things we did to a degree and luckily this included everything on my list still no sex. We laid together after and I asked about feedback on what he thought of me and if I seemed to be enjoying it and if I seemed to get into it that sort of thing.
I left that night with a massive grin on my face! And I've been back 5/6 times since and we've ticket off everything else off the list including just chilling with each other cuddling and watching tv having meals together. We really like each other and it's not one sided!
We decided to take a break of a week because our emotions were both crazy for each other, after that we came back and both hit it off again! A week later we decide to date a longer break and if our feelings for each other are still as strong then we do
Something about it. I break up with my gf and we date properly no running around and no cheating!
I still love my gf but I'm crazy about this guy, it scares me more because if I don't go with him now I'll always regret it but my gf is perfect! I really cannot fault her! I would be happy either way and I'll regret not doing whatever I choose not to do!
Any help would be useful!
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