03-21-2016, 06:04 PM
Hey, I need some advice. I came out in college almost three years ago but despite having really good friends and being active in the gay scene I have never actually been with a guy, beyond kissing and fondling.
When I first came out there were a couple of older men in the bars I went to who came on strong and I think saw it as some kind of game to be the first. I'll be honest the predatory nature of it freaked me out a little and I started to avoid places where I was going to be seen as fresh meat. But where I lived at the time the gay scene was pretty small and everyone knew everyone else. When I moved to London I was open about my sexuality and people have I guess just presumed that I have had sex. I work in theatre and everyone is very open and accepting but in a way I have found that made it more difficult for me to admit how inexperienced I really am.
In January I met an older guy, he's an actor and came to the opening night of a play to see a friend of his perform. A bunch of us went out after and this guy and I really hit it off. I felt so much more comfortable with him than I have with anyone until now. We have met up a few times since then and he brought me for dinner and went back to his place afterwards. That was the first time I ever sucked a guy off.
He could tell I was nervous but I still couldn't bring myself to say I'd never had sex. He said there was no need to all the way yet if I wanted to wait, but like I said I sucked him off and he asked if I would rim him, I guess he saw my hesitation and said he would do me first if I wanted. Before it went any further though he got a call that he had to answer and that was that. I went home.
He picked me up from the theatre last night and asked me to give him a blow job (in the car) because my flatmate was home and he said he had a mate staying at his house too.
I want to have sex. But I'm afraid if I tell him that I have no clue what I'm doing he'll go off me. But then he'll probably be able to tell from how useless I am anyway. I actually considered getting off my face and fucking some stranger just to get the first time over and done with. Is it off putting to have sex with a guy who's never done it before?
When I first came out there were a couple of older men in the bars I went to who came on strong and I think saw it as some kind of game to be the first. I'll be honest the predatory nature of it freaked me out a little and I started to avoid places where I was going to be seen as fresh meat. But where I lived at the time the gay scene was pretty small and everyone knew everyone else. When I moved to London I was open about my sexuality and people have I guess just presumed that I have had sex. I work in theatre and everyone is very open and accepting but in a way I have found that made it more difficult for me to admit how inexperienced I really am.
In January I met an older guy, he's an actor and came to the opening night of a play to see a friend of his perform. A bunch of us went out after and this guy and I really hit it off. I felt so much more comfortable with him than I have with anyone until now. We have met up a few times since then and he brought me for dinner and went back to his place afterwards. That was the first time I ever sucked a guy off.
He could tell I was nervous but I still couldn't bring myself to say I'd never had sex. He said there was no need to all the way yet if I wanted to wait, but like I said I sucked him off and he asked if I would rim him, I guess he saw my hesitation and said he would do me first if I wanted. Before it went any further though he got a call that he had to answer and that was that. I went home.
He picked me up from the theatre last night and asked me to give him a blow job (in the car) because my flatmate was home and he said he had a mate staying at his house too.
I want to have sex. But I'm afraid if I tell him that I have no clue what I'm doing he'll go off me. But then he'll probably be able to tell from how useless I am anyway. I actually considered getting off my face and fucking some stranger just to get the first time over and done with. Is it off putting to have sex with a guy who's never done it before?
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