06-20-2016, 10:38 PM
I´m 32. I´ve been around the block, and more than once.
I finely met someone, where the interest was mutual and timing was on point for once.
He was half a virgin when i met him. (Mean Girls quote i know, but never the less the truth)
. We have had a good start, similar interest, lots of fun together, romantic times, same views and all that. He is 25 and i am 32. I´m doing a BA and he starts his in fall. supportive families and all that. very ordinary I would say. We have been going out for 3 months and dated for 2 before that.
It´s all very new to him + he is shy IT tech. guy. We got tested and started doing it without a condom. He sees that as being very intimate, along with kissing, and I totally get that. It is for me it too.
But here is the problem. He only wants to fuck. We are both vers. as it turns out, which makes that part very easy. But that is all he wants to do. He fucks me (usually) or the other way around, sometimes. But that´s it. he doesn't wanna blow me as he is not turned on by it "sees it as work", and it doesn't turn him on when i blow him. its the same with ass eating, nipple play, jockstraps, toys, public play, harness, porn, cum eating (of course) anything i can put my mind to! I´m not a big fetish person to begin with. Vanilla would be just fine, but this vanilla light, low carb, no fat, no gluten, dairy free sex, is getting frustrating. So I am just just trying to explore every options. Find something that he might find fun, and turn him on. other than kissing and fucking in missionary, or doggy, but only doggy when he fucks me... I feel so demanding, and sad. because I really like the guy, and I want it to be us for a long time. I don´t want to pressure him, if he is not into it he is not into it, just like there are things out there, that does not catch my interest. I got a little prissy about it once, because I was frustrated. We had already agreed to talk about everything if there was ever something on our minds, get it out and see what could be done. I told him that it was bothering me, and then the tears came, and he was saying how he knew it was gonna happen, and now I was gonna break up with him and all that. Which really is not the case. I have no interest in others, which is new to me too. I found something worth holding on to. So i´m gonna give it my best shot. That is why i created this profile, to get some advice, to vent, maybe anyone has had similar experience?
Btw. It´s not that we have bad sex, its actually quite great, sex drive is also quite similar. but.... come on.... do something else, anything.
I finely met someone, where the interest was mutual and timing was on point for once.
He was half a virgin when i met him. (Mean Girls quote i know, but never the less the truth)
. We have had a good start, similar interest, lots of fun together, romantic times, same views and all that. He is 25 and i am 32. I´m doing a BA and he starts his in fall. supportive families and all that. very ordinary I would say. We have been going out for 3 months and dated for 2 before that.It´s all very new to him + he is shy IT tech. guy. We got tested and started doing it without a condom. He sees that as being very intimate, along with kissing, and I totally get that. It is for me it too.
But here is the problem. He only wants to fuck. We are both vers. as it turns out, which makes that part very easy. But that is all he wants to do. He fucks me (usually) or the other way around, sometimes. But that´s it. he doesn't wanna blow me as he is not turned on by it "sees it as work", and it doesn't turn him on when i blow him. its the same with ass eating, nipple play, jockstraps, toys, public play, harness, porn, cum eating (of course) anything i can put my mind to! I´m not a big fetish person to begin with. Vanilla would be just fine, but this vanilla light, low carb, no fat, no gluten, dairy free sex, is getting frustrating. So I am just just trying to explore every options. Find something that he might find fun, and turn him on. other than kissing and fucking in missionary, or doggy, but only doggy when he fucks me... I feel so demanding, and sad. because I really like the guy, and I want it to be us for a long time. I don´t want to pressure him, if he is not into it he is not into it, just like there are things out there, that does not catch my interest. I got a little prissy about it once, because I was frustrated. We had already agreed to talk about everything if there was ever something on our minds, get it out and see what could be done. I told him that it was bothering me, and then the tears came, and he was saying how he knew it was gonna happen, and now I was gonna break up with him and all that. Which really is not the case. I have no interest in others, which is new to me too. I found something worth holding on to. So i´m gonna give it my best shot. That is why i created this profile, to get some advice, to vent, maybe anyone has had similar experience?
Btw. It´s not that we have bad sex, its actually quite great, sex drive is also quite similar. but.... come on.... do something else, anything.
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