Kink in relationships

[Anonymous]

If you’re a kinkster and in an open relationship with a more vanilla individual, are you open with the vanilla partner about your kinks if you are already aware, based on prior general discussions and comments, that they’re not into those specific things? Looking for that proverbial line regarding honest discussion and honoring my own autonomy. Just FYI, I don’t think there’s a “need to know” in terms of sti risk as we’re both regularly tested and open in that regard.