Migrating to another country

[Anonymous]

Hi Everyone,


I am a guy in my early thirties and a closeted gay. 

There is a reason why I'm still a closeted gay. 
I am living in a country where homosexuality is criminalized and the LGBT community is not accepted by the main society. 
I have heard of many LGBT people quitting their jobs due to pressure or being fired from their jobs after they come out.
So, it's not really feasible for me to come out here.

Also, my family is very conservative. I'm sure they will consider having a gay son is an embarrassment and will disown me.

There is a local online forum for gay guys in my country (I think it's the only local one available for gay guys). That forum is used mostly for hookups and I rarely see anything about relationships in it.
This is the common situation for most of the gay guys in my country: Most of them are married in a straight marriage and they secretly have a gay hookup affair without their spouses and families knowing. I find it very upsetting and depressing that I need to live a fake life in public and fulfill my true desires in secrecy. Also, I'm not interested in hookups, so I don't think I can fit in to such a situation.

I'm considering to migrate to another country (Australia, Canada or Europe etc.) where the LGBT community have rights and are respected.
As least I can come out (to myself) in that country and find a life partner.
I can feel more brave to meet up guys for dates and not fear the society.
 
I am so determined that I am prepared to learn foreign languages so that I have more options of countries to migrate to.

I really desire to be in a lifelong relationship and have a boyfriend whom I can cuddle with, take care of him and enjoy life with him.
After migrating, I'm planning to join dating websites and meet up guys for dates to find my soulmate. 

Here are my questions:

- Is it an acceptable reason that I'm planning to migrate to another (LGBT-friendly) country just to find a life partner and be in a relationship?
I mean it's not a guarantee that I will be able to find a boyfriend and I might still be single even after dating for umpteenth times.
Also, migrating is not so easy and simple.
I'm not sure if I can adapt to the new culture, customs and lifestyle. And there could be other issues like employment, housing etc. 
I'm not sure if it's worth the risk to migrate so that I could date freely.

- I intend to start a fresh new life once I'm overseas, to the extent of deleting my current facebook profile (most are "friends" whom I don’t meet in real life anyway) and creating a new one with the new circle of friends that I made when in overseas. 
Am I a coward to not let my family or current friends know about my new (but true) life and hide it from them?