08-29-2011, 06:11 AM
I self identify as a loner. Im having some difficulty adjusting to having my friend back in the picture and in my bedroom. I have been spoiled by my own hand and watching to much porn in the process of getting off. My sexual response has grown accustomed to solo activities. My friend is finding out Im a hard person to please. When he goes down on me it feels good but I havent been able to climax. I am a pretty giving person so Im finding myself feeling more pleasure when Im giving head than receiving it. I find the situation sorta odd. Im slightly baffled on how to change the situation or even if I want to change it.
I was talking to another friend online not to long ago. I told her that if I ever got into a relationship with a person that it would be for the love and companionship. Sex is nice and all but I already know how to pull my own trigger pretty well. I know what I like and how I like it. Currently Im trying to lay off the solo activities and relax more when my friend and I hook up. He has no problem climaxing when we get together. Being a friend with benefits definitely has it's perks however I find myself wanting more some times. My friend identifies as straight yet he was the one that approached me about fooling around again.
He likes to keep things on the down low and gets paranoid about people finding out about us. It can be frustrating at times when we are in the middle of some thing and we have to pause because he thinks he heard something downstairs like my brother getting home. It kinda kills the mood. I can sorta understand where he is coming from however I know for a fact if we were ever caught in the act that my family wouldn't care. In fact they would be happy that Im fooling around with some one. I am planning on discussing this with him and seeing where his head is at. Sounds Im going to be patient with him when it comes to this. My take on it is that he is a closet case that isnt comfortable about being outted so he puts on a facade of being straight as a arrow. I was once in his shoes so I can empathize with him when he gets paranoid.
Am I way off base for wanting to know whats going on? Any other advice on how to remedy this?
I was talking to another friend online not to long ago. I told her that if I ever got into a relationship with a person that it would be for the love and companionship. Sex is nice and all but I already know how to pull my own trigger pretty well. I know what I like and how I like it. Currently Im trying to lay off the solo activities and relax more when my friend and I hook up. He has no problem climaxing when we get together. Being a friend with benefits definitely has it's perks however I find myself wanting more some times. My friend identifies as straight yet he was the one that approached me about fooling around again.
He likes to keep things on the down low and gets paranoid about people finding out about us. It can be frustrating at times when we are in the middle of some thing and we have to pause because he thinks he heard something downstairs like my brother getting home. It kinda kills the mood. I can sorta understand where he is coming from however I know for a fact if we were ever caught in the act that my family wouldn't care. In fact they would be happy that Im fooling around with some one. I am planning on discussing this with him and seeing where his head is at. Sounds Im going to be patient with him when it comes to this. My take on it is that he is a closet case that isnt comfortable about being outted so he puts on a facade of being straight as a arrow. I was once in his shoes so I can empathize with him when he gets paranoid.
Am I way off base for wanting to know whats going on? Any other advice on how to remedy this?
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