09-19-2011, 04:00 PM
parenting is low on the list of possible genetic god givens.
it is always possible to sharpen a parent's skillz. once the guy or gal sees this aspect of self improvement they have become good parents.
so were my parent(s) good?
-i never really knew my dad and didnt go to his funeral, so there. my mother did not get through high school and being born 1920 maybe that was the norm for females. she divorced her husband early on and got a nursing degree, kept us comftorable. it think she was a great parent with limitations; she was too independent and recluse and i became that way too. i only changed later in life.
there is soo much more you can do as an individual with the right friends and husband. i never saw this demonstrated in my childhood.
so was i a good parent?
i married late in a straight relationship lasting 15years. of these years, the last 5years i determined i was very gay but still made things work as a straight man, i was still needed i had a step child. we achieved moderate success as measured; the step monster got through 4years of college and demonstrated the ability to set achievable personal goals.
having done all this i have re taken my life for my self and gotten a divorce. I live with my partner Jesse. i never intended to dedicate my live to the child. i think children and their parent(s) are a team. i think parenting is not a god given skill. the most important thing you can give is to love your self.
it is always possible to sharpen a parent's skillz. once the guy or gal sees this aspect of self improvement they have become good parents.
so were my parent(s) good?
-i never really knew my dad and didnt go to his funeral, so there. my mother did not get through high school and being born 1920 maybe that was the norm for females. she divorced her husband early on and got a nursing degree, kept us comftorable. it think she was a great parent with limitations; she was too independent and recluse and i became that way too. i only changed later in life.
there is soo much more you can do as an individual with the right friends and husband. i never saw this demonstrated in my childhood.
so was i a good parent?
i married late in a straight relationship lasting 15years. of these years, the last 5years i determined i was very gay but still made things work as a straight man, i was still needed i had a step child. we achieved moderate success as measured; the step monster got through 4years of college and demonstrated the ability to set achievable personal goals.
having done all this i have re taken my life for my self and gotten a divorce. I live with my partner Jesse. i never intended to dedicate my live to the child. i think children and their parent(s) are a team. i think parenting is not a god given skill. the most important thing you can give is to love your self.
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