08-11-2012, 02:54 AM
I think you're young and you have a number of avenues open to you as of right now.
It's OK to be confused about your gender identity, and I know from trans friends that it is not always an easy process, just as sexual orientation is not always so easy for someone to figure out. Some people have the sense that they've known all along that their gender was different from the one assigned at birth, others take years to settle down into a gender identity that is comfortable for them, whether that be no-op, transsexual, genderqueer or just a tomboy. Don't feel like you have to rush to figure these things out, sometimes it's enough to just admit that you don't feel like a girl in the same way most girls feel, and you can work out the details of your feelings over time.
I agree with dfiant that honesty and open discussion is often the best course of action. At the same time, you are 17 and thus dependent on the support of your parents so it can be a very difficult position when the power dynamics are not equal between you and your parents.
Best of luck.
It's OK to be confused about your gender identity, and I know from trans friends that it is not always an easy process, just as sexual orientation is not always so easy for someone to figure out. Some people have the sense that they've known all along that their gender was different from the one assigned at birth, others take years to settle down into a gender identity that is comfortable for them, whether that be no-op, transsexual, genderqueer or just a tomboy. Don't feel like you have to rush to figure these things out, sometimes it's enough to just admit that you don't feel like a girl in the same way most girls feel, and you can work out the details of your feelings over time.
I agree with dfiant that honesty and open discussion is often the best course of action. At the same time, you are 17 and thus dependent on the support of your parents so it can be a very difficult position when the power dynamics are not equal between you and your parents.
Best of luck.
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