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[pellaz]

Do you think one can remain married with a woman? when she knows you don´t like woman, I have told her everything ...

YES
it is possible to remain with your wife.
you took an oath to remain together sickness and health, the modern definition of gay is not precisely covered in those terms but i am sure the original definition of marriage was meant to extend there. You have a good friend who still loves you and desires you as a man. THAT IS A LOT.

Being gay is not a cult thingy. It does not make your dating life easier. The chances of finding your self a new husband is slight and you will make lots of personal compromises as a couple. Any relationship; gay straight or bi, IS THE SAME.

If your married and plan to stay, i would suggest being aware of the HIV. You could infect your wife, that would be beyond bad. There are various serious STD situations that can be transmitted by touch. Google is your friend. There should be a local free STD clinic in your area that you can get tested at and can give you accurate information.

i was in a straight marriage for 15 years
about 2001 i came out to my self as gay. I hung out and dated a few boys. I came to the conclusion the relationship with my wife was more or less as solid as the best gay date i could find but no more. I would have stuck with the wife but seems we never were able to get back together. Sorry for making everything so complicated, consider EVERY option. Best wishes.