08-23-2012, 03:36 AM
It really is just about relaxing the muscles. That takes practice and control. Even with lube, if you're really tensing up down there, you're gonna have a real hard time getting anything inside. You might be able to work a finger in there, but nothing else will really work.
So that's what you have to practice, is letting the muscles relax. To help make the process easier, I'd recommend using some lube every time, even with just a finger. That'll help prove you can actually do it.
What you can do as well is get a finger inside, then work on the finger next to it. For example, use your pointer finger first, then work on the middle finger while leaving the pointer inside as well. Lube them both, of course. But this will help you adjust to slightly wider things and you'll get there.
It's a natural reaction to clamp down when something's trying to force it's way up your bum, even if you want it to go up there - that's just the body's doing. But you are able to control it, just like many many other aspects of your body.
Also, maybe you're worried about having an accident while you're trying this stuff out? The fear of making a mess could be a problem you're having. Especially if you're trying to do it with your partner present, that'd be embarrassing right? Well, it may happen eventually to either one of you and when it does, just shrug it off, clean up and move forward. Also, you can help prevent accidents by making sure to eat plenty of fiber and take a good healthy dump a little while before your anal escapades. Anywhere from right before to a few hours would be fine. Then you can feel confident you won't have an accident and might have an easier time relaxing down there
So that's what you have to practice, is letting the muscles relax. To help make the process easier, I'd recommend using some lube every time, even with just a finger. That'll help prove you can actually do it.
What you can do as well is get a finger inside, then work on the finger next to it. For example, use your pointer finger first, then work on the middle finger while leaving the pointer inside as well. Lube them both, of course. But this will help you adjust to slightly wider things and you'll get there.
It's a natural reaction to clamp down when something's trying to force it's way up your bum, even if you want it to go up there - that's just the body's doing. But you are able to control it, just like many many other aspects of your body.
Also, maybe you're worried about having an accident while you're trying this stuff out? The fear of making a mess could be a problem you're having. Especially if you're trying to do it with your partner present, that'd be embarrassing right? Well, it may happen eventually to either one of you and when it does, just shrug it off, clean up and move forward. Also, you can help prevent accidents by making sure to eat plenty of fiber and take a good healthy dump a little while before your anal escapades. Anywhere from right before to a few hours would be fine. Then you can feel confident you won't have an accident and might have an easier time relaxing down there
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