08-26-2012, 10:35 PM
I generally go with happiness.
Even people who go with a lot of money can find they make less with the higher paying job simply because they have so many other expenses (have to maintain a certain look, certain gadgets, end up paying for vices to feel better about their unhappy life which can lead to additional legal & medical expenses just as the stress of working a job you hate can, may lead to a dependency on counseling & psychiatric drugs to function, etc). In my experience it's better to lower overhead rather than work for higher pay, though obviously if you need the latest gadgets and name brands and hot cars to feel fulfilled (or at least content) then you should go for the higher pay over the lower overhead (or perhaps learn new ways to amuse yourself and occupy your time and realize you can make friends that you don't have to compete with by showing off your expensive toys & labels to each other).
That said, I don't think they have to be mutually exclusive. As long as you hold your higher paying job as a "means to an end" to achieve your actual goals (especially if you think of it as something you're doing until you're more stable--careful not to let your overhead rise right along with your earnings--or until something better comes along) then it shouldn't be a big deal. It may not be your dream job but it can still help you achieve your dreams. Not all of us define ourselves by our jobs.
The question is, is that higher paying job going to help or hinder you? Will it make you better able to meet your dreams or will the "hidden price tag" mean you lose more than you earn anyway? And can it help in other indirect ways (like learning your subject better or gain valuable experience for when a new job offer of a job better suited to your desires is available)? Are you using it as a stepping stone to your dreams or whoring out your soul? That's something only you (and maybe those closest to you) can say, not anyone else.
Even people who go with a lot of money can find they make less with the higher paying job simply because they have so many other expenses (have to maintain a certain look, certain gadgets, end up paying for vices to feel better about their unhappy life which can lead to additional legal & medical expenses just as the stress of working a job you hate can, may lead to a dependency on counseling & psychiatric drugs to function, etc). In my experience it's better to lower overhead rather than work for higher pay, though obviously if you need the latest gadgets and name brands and hot cars to feel fulfilled (or at least content) then you should go for the higher pay over the lower overhead (or perhaps learn new ways to amuse yourself and occupy your time and realize you can make friends that you don't have to compete with by showing off your expensive toys & labels to each other).
That said, I don't think they have to be mutually exclusive. As long as you hold your higher paying job as a "means to an end" to achieve your actual goals (especially if you think of it as something you're doing until you're more stable--careful not to let your overhead rise right along with your earnings--or until something better comes along) then it shouldn't be a big deal. It may not be your dream job but it can still help you achieve your dreams. Not all of us define ourselves by our jobs.
The question is, is that higher paying job going to help or hinder you? Will it make you better able to meet your dreams or will the "hidden price tag" mean you lose more than you earn anyway? And can it help in other indirect ways (like learning your subject better or gain valuable experience for when a new job offer of a job better suited to your desires is available)? Are you using it as a stepping stone to your dreams or whoring out your soul? That's something only you (and maybe those closest to you) can say, not anyone else.
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