08-28-2012, 09:27 PM
Stability of relationships have little to nothing to do with their sexual orientation, it has much more to do with the personalities and character of the individuals involved.
I have been in 6 'relationships' - honest attempts at love and matrimony. I have had mixed results, usually mixing toward the bad end of things.
While all 6 were gay (two men) they had various levels of success and failure in various aspects because of behaviors of myself and the men I was with. Earlier relationships were roller coaster rides ending in violence and horror. One just kind of sort of was there, but not there - and we just walked away with nothing left to say.
The 6th, and I assume final, relationship has been a quite one. We both get along with each other and pretty much like one another - usually, there are a few things we do not like, but we 'get over it' and move on. We have been together over 14 years now and rapidly heading to year 15.
Of course the earlier ones I was young and stupid, having these ideas about what love is and what a relationship should be (in my narrow view). This long one I grew up, matured and had a better understanding (not perfect, just better) of what this whole relationship thing is about.
Maturity of person, and a better understanding of what life on Earth is all about tends to lead to that person being in a better, longer relationship. More often than not first time relationships fail, often spectacularly, regardless of sexual orientation. Later relationships tend to survive and even flourish.
LGBT relationships may last a tad longer and be a tad closer, only in as much as two men or two women tend to have to fight a little bit more against everyone else to stay together, to mark their territory. That 'war' tends to draw them closer together.
I have been in 6 'relationships' - honest attempts at love and matrimony. I have had mixed results, usually mixing toward the bad end of things.
While all 6 were gay (two men) they had various levels of success and failure in various aspects because of behaviors of myself and the men I was with. Earlier relationships were roller coaster rides ending in violence and horror. One just kind of sort of was there, but not there - and we just walked away with nothing left to say.
The 6th, and I assume final, relationship has been a quite one. We both get along with each other and pretty much like one another - usually, there are a few things we do not like, but we 'get over it' and move on. We have been together over 14 years now and rapidly heading to year 15.
Of course the earlier ones I was young and stupid, having these ideas about what love is and what a relationship should be (in my narrow view). This long one I grew up, matured and had a better understanding (not perfect, just better) of what this whole relationship thing is about.
Maturity of person, and a better understanding of what life on Earth is all about tends to lead to that person being in a better, longer relationship. More often than not first time relationships fail, often spectacularly, regardless of sexual orientation. Later relationships tend to survive and even flourish.
LGBT relationships may last a tad longer and be a tad closer, only in as much as two men or two women tend to have to fight a little bit more against everyone else to stay together, to mark their territory. That 'war' tends to draw them closer together.
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