09-03-2012, 06:24 AM
Ok, back. 
mile:
Another word for femme is lipstick lesbian or doily dyke.
One "between stud and femme" is a "stem."
A "hasbian" is a formerly identified lesbian who now dates men (this term got used in The L Word that I mentioned before).
Flesbian = fake lesbian. Many lesbians love to dismiss Katy Perry ("I Kissed A Girl") as a flesbian (many gay men don't care for her song "Ur so gay" as well).
Btw, many lesbians don't like the theme song for TLW (TLW = The L Word), but if a lesbian says they should've used Katy Perry's "I Kissed a Girl" get far away from her as the dyke drama is about to fall on her like a ton of bricks. Seriously, I've seen it happen. :frown:
And the dyke drama is the drama lesbians get into. Though there are many contributing factors to this and it sometimes used to mean ANY drama between a lesbian couple, I think it's normally meant for special lesbian drama, such as what happens when a social circle of lesbians include many ex-girlfriends which make current couples suspicious when those exes go off by themselves together leading to various forms of stalking, jealousy, and other forms of drama. A particularly obnoxious form is when one tries to revitalize the relationship by inciting jealousy in her partner by coming onto someone else (I HATE this, but there are heterosexual women who like to do it, too), and in particularly deranged cases may be very complex (I've heard of relationships where one continually finds another woman to "rescue" her from abuse but it's all a ploy to get her partner jealous which can lead to violence as well as heartbreak, and such a pathetic lesbian couple can repeat this behavior over & over again, so beware of getting tangled up with another lesbian who is "trying to leave" her partner!).
Ok, back to general terms:
Another word for "soft butch" is "chapstick."
And here's a stud (who sounds to me like she just smoked some pot before making this vid
)and another lesbian (I'm glad she seems sober and able to keep the stud on track) talking about studs:
Yeah, my stud burped and spit (not tobacco) and things like that, too. Luckily, growing up with some rough rednecks toughened me up to things like that. :tongue: Btw, studs can have long hair, though it will still likely be in a masculine style.
They also briefly touch on lesbian terms in the last half as well (including alternate words for "stud" that I hadn't heard before). It mentioned "A-G" as an alternate term for stud but I don't think they explained that it's short for "aggressive."
"Versatile" generally means switching from being a top or bottom. I think most lesbians are versatile in bed, even when they otherwise have a male/female role. Top/Bottom seems subtly different among women than men in that a top pleasures a woman (like with a strap-on) while male tops seem more about pleasuring themselves. It's a subtle difference so it's hard for me to explain (after all, bottom males enjoy being bottoms, too) but it does seem to me that if there's a clear "boss" in a lesbian relationship then the lesbian bottom is more likely to be the one calling the shots (either as a spoiled princess or as maternally dominant), whereas a top male is likely to be the boss instead (and it SEEMS to me that men are much more concerned about who's in charge than women).
To be packing is a lesbian wearing a strap-on under her clothes.
Sometimes a gay person will date someone of the opposite sex (ideally, also gay) as cover and such a person can be called a "beard." I don't think it's that common in the civilized world anymore, but I'm sure in especially conservative countries (like Russia) it's still very common ('course I don't know what their terms are). A beard can also be a one night escort to an event. I personally don't know how this word came about, but even urban dictionary lists it so I guess it's pretty commonly used (though I've almost never heard it, and despite a lesbian character in TLW using a gay man to pretend to be her boyfriend a lot, I don't recall any of the characters using the word, either).
To be able to bluff being hetero is to "pass" or "be passing."
A "gold star" lesbian never had sex with a man, and I believe a "silver star" is one who realized she was lesbian after her first sexual experience with a man and never had sex with one again.
Hets = heterosexuals.
Though I haven't heard this term in years, "breeder" is sometimes used as a derogatory term for hets, but in the last few years I mainly hear it as a term by hets themselves for those who just try to pop out as many children as they can, and by the CF ("child free" and not meant to imply the CF is gay) sometimes even use this label on anyone with even one child.
Bicurious means straight but curious or willing to engage in sex with someone of the same gender (but typically not as an actual relationship, unless it's part of a polyamorous one, and polyamory is where more than one person get into a romantic & sexual relationship together, not to be confused with an "open relationship" where you're free to hook up with others besides your partner). "Blesbian" is a bi-curious lesbian curious about or willing to have sex with men (I haven't heard this term in several years, I think it fell out of favor when women being bi became something of a fashion statement).
Biphobia is the fear or antipathy many gays have for bisexuals. There are many reasons this exists, but I think the biggest fear is that because society makes it so much easier to be with someone of the opposite gender then most bisexuals will eventually betray you for someone of the opposite gender (this ignores how irrational love often is). Bisexuals also have a tendency to be dismissed as sluts (Margaret Cho actually endorsed that view, even if only as a joke, when she shared how she had sex with a woman on a lesbian cruise and then tormented herself with, "Am I gay? Am I straight? And then I realized I was just slutty.") I think full equality will do away with a lot of biphobia.
Transphobia is a fear of transsexuals, and sometimes even of those who violate gender norms (such as queens and bulldykes).
D&D = drug & disease (as in "D&D Free").
MtF/M2F=Male to Female (also Transwoman). FtM/F2M= Female to Male (also Transman).
Ok, I'm getting tired. Maybe I'll add some more later.mile:
mile:Another word for femme is lipstick lesbian or doily dyke.
One "between stud and femme" is a "stem."
A "hasbian" is a formerly identified lesbian who now dates men (this term got used in The L Word that I mentioned before).
Flesbian = fake lesbian. Many lesbians love to dismiss Katy Perry ("I Kissed A Girl") as a flesbian (many gay men don't care for her song "Ur so gay" as well).
Btw, many lesbians don't like the theme song for TLW (TLW = The L Word), but if a lesbian says they should've used Katy Perry's "I Kissed a Girl" get far away from her as the dyke drama is about to fall on her like a ton of bricks. Seriously, I've seen it happen. :frown:
And the dyke drama is the drama lesbians get into. Though there are many contributing factors to this and it sometimes used to mean ANY drama between a lesbian couple, I think it's normally meant for special lesbian drama, such as what happens when a social circle of lesbians include many ex-girlfriends which make current couples suspicious when those exes go off by themselves together leading to various forms of stalking, jealousy, and other forms of drama. A particularly obnoxious form is when one tries to revitalize the relationship by inciting jealousy in her partner by coming onto someone else (I HATE this, but there are heterosexual women who like to do it, too), and in particularly deranged cases may be very complex (I've heard of relationships where one continually finds another woman to "rescue" her from abuse but it's all a ploy to get her partner jealous which can lead to violence as well as heartbreak, and such a pathetic lesbian couple can repeat this behavior over & over again, so beware of getting tangled up with another lesbian who is "trying to leave" her partner!).
Ok, back to general terms:
Another word for "soft butch" is "chapstick."
And here's a stud (who sounds to me like she just smoked some pot before making this vid
)and another lesbian (I'm glad she seems sober and able to keep the stud on track) talking about studs:Yeah, my stud burped and spit (not tobacco) and things like that, too. Luckily, growing up with some rough rednecks toughened me up to things like that. :tongue: Btw, studs can have long hair, though it will still likely be in a masculine style.
They also briefly touch on lesbian terms in the last half as well (including alternate words for "stud" that I hadn't heard before). It mentioned "A-G" as an alternate term for stud but I don't think they explained that it's short for "aggressive."
"Versatile" generally means switching from being a top or bottom. I think most lesbians are versatile in bed, even when they otherwise have a male/female role. Top/Bottom seems subtly different among women than men in that a top pleasures a woman (like with a strap-on) while male tops seem more about pleasuring themselves. It's a subtle difference so it's hard for me to explain (after all, bottom males enjoy being bottoms, too) but it does seem to me that if there's a clear "boss" in a lesbian relationship then the lesbian bottom is more likely to be the one calling the shots (either as a spoiled princess or as maternally dominant), whereas a top male is likely to be the boss instead (and it SEEMS to me that men are much more concerned about who's in charge than women).
To be packing is a lesbian wearing a strap-on under her clothes.
Sometimes a gay person will date someone of the opposite sex (ideally, also gay) as cover and such a person can be called a "beard." I don't think it's that common in the civilized world anymore, but I'm sure in especially conservative countries (like Russia) it's still very common ('course I don't know what their terms are). A beard can also be a one night escort to an event. I personally don't know how this word came about, but even urban dictionary lists it so I guess it's pretty commonly used (though I've almost never heard it, and despite a lesbian character in TLW using a gay man to pretend to be her boyfriend a lot, I don't recall any of the characters using the word, either).
To be able to bluff being hetero is to "pass" or "be passing."
A "gold star" lesbian never had sex with a man, and I believe a "silver star" is one who realized she was lesbian after her first sexual experience with a man and never had sex with one again.
Hets = heterosexuals.
Though I haven't heard this term in years, "breeder" is sometimes used as a derogatory term for hets, but in the last few years I mainly hear it as a term by hets themselves for those who just try to pop out as many children as they can, and by the CF ("child free" and not meant to imply the CF is gay) sometimes even use this label on anyone with even one child.
Bicurious means straight but curious or willing to engage in sex with someone of the same gender (but typically not as an actual relationship, unless it's part of a polyamorous one, and polyamory is where more than one person get into a romantic & sexual relationship together, not to be confused with an "open relationship" where you're free to hook up with others besides your partner). "Blesbian" is a bi-curious lesbian curious about or willing to have sex with men (I haven't heard this term in several years, I think it fell out of favor when women being bi became something of a fashion statement).
Biphobia is the fear or antipathy many gays have for bisexuals. There are many reasons this exists, but I think the biggest fear is that because society makes it so much easier to be with someone of the opposite gender then most bisexuals will eventually betray you for someone of the opposite gender (this ignores how irrational love often is). Bisexuals also have a tendency to be dismissed as sluts (Margaret Cho actually endorsed that view, even if only as a joke, when she shared how she had sex with a woman on a lesbian cruise and then tormented herself with, "Am I gay? Am I straight? And then I realized I was just slutty.") I think full equality will do away with a lot of biphobia.
Transphobia is a fear of transsexuals, and sometimes even of those who violate gender norms (such as queens and bulldykes).
D&D = drug & disease (as in "D&D Free").
MtF/M2F=Male to Female (also Transwoman). FtM/F2M= Female to Male (also Transman).
Ok, I'm getting tired. Maybe I'll add some more later.
mile:
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