09-07-2012, 06:33 AM
Honestly, it doesn't sound like you tow mesh very well at all. Yes opposites can attract, but behind all the opposites there has to be some commonalities and those opposites need to be once that compliment each other.
Yes he overreacted a bit, but that's just a symptom of the core problem. Your maturity levels are just too far apart to work together. He's bold, honest and outspoken, one of those people that says what he thinks, rather bluntly at times. You don'y handle that well and dwell on it longer than he thinks you should. I also think he's an action person. He told you what he thought the problem was - two of them actually and, rather than hearing you apologize and go on about it. He wanted a more mature "Okay, what can I do to fix those things?" or "Okay, I'll work on those things." and that would be the end of it, you'd go on and make efforts to fix the problem, ask for his help when you got stuck and needed a new way to go about it.
I don't handle immaturity well, and I am one of those people that simply tells you what I don't like, and I expect you to either know how to fix it, or, to ask me what would please me if you don't know how to fix it, then put the fixing into action. Apologizing for something you can fix if you want to, sounds more like a cop out to me. Like saying "It's how i am and I'm not going to change." Okay, that's fine too, but don't expect me to peruse a relationship with someone I know will never be compatible with me.
Where I think he made a mistake is in being silent rather than telling you exactly what he was thinking and feeling. Were I in your place, I'd confront him and get honest answers, but that's me. All i can tell you is to do what you think is best, but it doesn't sound like you two really fit together very well personality wise.
I'm not trying to upset you, just giving you my honest opinion, for whatever it's worth to you.
Yes he overreacted a bit, but that's just a symptom of the core problem. Your maturity levels are just too far apart to work together. He's bold, honest and outspoken, one of those people that says what he thinks, rather bluntly at times. You don'y handle that well and dwell on it longer than he thinks you should. I also think he's an action person. He told you what he thought the problem was - two of them actually and, rather than hearing you apologize and go on about it. He wanted a more mature "Okay, what can I do to fix those things?" or "Okay, I'll work on those things." and that would be the end of it, you'd go on and make efforts to fix the problem, ask for his help when you got stuck and needed a new way to go about it.
I don't handle immaturity well, and I am one of those people that simply tells you what I don't like, and I expect you to either know how to fix it, or, to ask me what would please me if you don't know how to fix it, then put the fixing into action. Apologizing for something you can fix if you want to, sounds more like a cop out to me. Like saying "It's how i am and I'm not going to change." Okay, that's fine too, but don't expect me to peruse a relationship with someone I know will never be compatible with me.
Where I think he made a mistake is in being silent rather than telling you exactly what he was thinking and feeling. Were I in your place, I'd confront him and get honest answers, but that's me. All i can tell you is to do what you think is best, but it doesn't sound like you two really fit together very well personality wise.
I'm not trying to upset you, just giving you my honest opinion, for whatever it's worth to you.
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