Telling my Girlfriend, Is it Good Time?

[snugsy]

I find this discussion incredibly intriguing. to tell the truth and hurt her (inevitably and understandibly not really anyone's fault), or to lie, possibly saving her some pain. but risking causing her even more pain. I do usually find bowyn to be really insightful, and this is no exception. but there is allways a twinge of poison lurking in every lie. if not for her, then for you.

Maybe i'm looking too much at my perspective. I was in a similar boat once. dating a girl as i was figuring it out. but she was also a close friend. and much of my coming out story was propelled by the pain of having lied to my family and friends for years. And so coming out to her was part of me being able to forgive myself for wasting her time and lying to her. But that's my story. Yours might be entirely different.

My question is...
Could you live with your friendship for a while knowing that she doesn't know?
if so - if she is distant enough from your life. then maybe sparing her is the better option. If not. then I'd think honesty is the only way. But definitely i agree with the above statements that when she does learn the truth. you must assure her that it wasn't in any way her fault :) silly peoples always be thinkin that.