09-09-2012, 08:32 PM
I think you still feel a connection to her. Realistically that's as a dear friend, but you know she is gay and, in a rocky relationship so, naturally your mind and heart are going to hope for the possibility of more with her.
I also thing that, like me, you are a nurturer by nature and, with her being in a less than ideal relationship that might fall apart at any time, you instinctively want to take care of her and be there for her.
You also know that she may not be the ideal woman you imagine her to be, and that's simply being realistic. Also remember that if her relationship goes south and she does come to visit, you will likely be dealing with her on the rebound and, if you got into a relationship at that point, there would be a higher chance of it going south later. Not that rebound relationships can't work, they can, I've done it form both sides and had it work out for several years but, you have to keep in mind where and when it all got started and not let the changes that inevitably happen as you or they heal take you by surprise.
You aren't being dumb, you're being human. We have an amazing capacity to hope against all odds, no matter the situation. In this case I don't think that hope is entirely misplaced, but do be careful not to put her on a pedestal she can't get to the top of.
I also thing that, like me, you are a nurturer by nature and, with her being in a less than ideal relationship that might fall apart at any time, you instinctively want to take care of her and be there for her.
You also know that she may not be the ideal woman you imagine her to be, and that's simply being realistic. Also remember that if her relationship goes south and she does come to visit, you will likely be dealing with her on the rebound and, if you got into a relationship at that point, there would be a higher chance of it going south later. Not that rebound relationships can't work, they can, I've done it form both sides and had it work out for several years but, you have to keep in mind where and when it all got started and not let the changes that inevitably happen as you or they heal take you by surprise.
You aren't being dumb, you're being human. We have an amazing capacity to hope against all odds, no matter the situation. In this case I don't think that hope is entirely misplaced, but do be careful not to put her on a pedestal she can't get to the top of.
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