Mr Right is Gay

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I hate to say it (and sincerely hope I'm wrong) but I think a clear majority (certainly a sizable minority at the very least) of 100% (or close enough) straight women want "manly men," including in being a controlling jerk with rude manners. When they think of gay men they tend to think of (I'm not saying that's what gay men are like, but I can only assume we're talking about the "stereotypical gay man" here) which isn't at all what most of them want. Sometimes I think they want men who were much like their dysfunctional (and worse) fathers, perhaps simply because that's how they've learned that's how a "real relationship" works.

From what I see most women can't stand metrosexuals (especially if he looks better than her, or even just spends more on cosmetics than she does), though some are willing to overlook it if such men have lots of money (and a man who has money to spend on being a metrosexual probably does). And even when they accept a pretty boy they still seem to prefer controlling and condescending jerks (for example, like the many women of all ages love Edward of Twilight).

Over and over I've heard women complain about men who were too effeminate (be it in appearance or even just being considerate) and wanted him to be an alpha to take charge, keep her safe and make her feel wanted, be sexually aggressive (since many would feel too ashamed to be sexually aggressive themselves) and make exciting things happen. (Btw, I'm not counting those who complain about men no matter what they're like, only those who complain about "effeminate men" specifically.) More than one woman has openly said they play horrible head games with a man in the hopes he doesn't take her crap and put her in her place (they're under the misconception that all women are as twisted as they are which is why they'll admit it). Some (and unfortunately there are lesbians like this as well) who enjoy it when their partner gets into jealous rages and becomes violent (either with her and/or the one she flirted with just to tick him off). (Hmm, that reminds me of a , one I imagine being so popular because so many hets of both genders recognized themselves in it.)

In extreme cases they're even drawn to sociopaths. Hybristophilia is almost reserved exclusively for heterosexual females. Don't know how much is creative license but the comedian Chris Rock also said that he asked women loving misogynistic rap lyrics (like, "Fuck that bitch in the eye") why they liked music that talked about treating women cruelly and their responses tend to be, "He's talking about OTHER women." (And I suspect most het women lean this way, thus the love for jerks like Edward in Twilight. And then many books of the romance genre tend to feature a woman in a torrid love affair with pirates, philandering rakes, cruel landlords, and other people that any woman with self-respect would run away from rather than submit to and hope he, just like those sick women with full blown hybristophilia, will treat her well. And let's not forget how many novels include vampires and demons that enslave, sometimes "forcibly seduce," women and make them like him, and often a beloved slave for eternity.)

A guy into the S&M subculture said nearly 90% of straight women were submissive (and the lit certainly reflects that, such as the very popular 50 Shades of Grey out right now). But once you leave pure heterosexuality then submissive women drop to about 50%.

Makes me glad I'm not straight. I look at so many straight women and what they long for (and their popular romance reading) and cringe.