Why do I even try?

[BobInTampa]

Well, 45 minutes isn't really THAT far - not like you're in different states or countries. I have a question: Does he ever drive to you or are YOU always driving to him? I ask that because if he really wants to make this work, the commuting should be mutual - yes, even if he's got a busy schedule - it's not that long a drive. If he dosnt' drive, that would make me a bit concerned because coming to your home and meeting your friends would make that "committment" to you much stronger.

All that said, my gut tells me 2 things: yes, he's been upfront about his past history of breaking off relationships in 4 months, but, did he tell you why? If i were you, I'd be really careful about coming accross and NEEDY and DESPERATE! You said all the right things when you talked, so just let it go and keep up the communications.