09-29-2012, 06:58 PM
Hi Rasque, welcome to the forum.
First, I think you are doing right by your son in coming here to see first hand what other gay men have to say.
You can't force him to come out, he has to do that in his own way and, in his own time, to whom he chooses to come out to. What you can do is be there, be sure he knows that even if every friend he has rejects him, you won't, he will have his family no matter how anyone else reacts to him coming out.
Just be available to him and, support him whether he decides to come out or not, don't try to push the issue. Let your son decide what is right for him and, when it's comfortable for him to come out.
There are some excellent books out there that might be of interest to you both as well. One I recommend is Farm Boys, it's a biography of what gays in a rural, pretty fundamental community go through.
First, I think you are doing right by your son in coming here to see first hand what other gay men have to say.
You can't force him to come out, he has to do that in his own way and, in his own time, to whom he chooses to come out to. What you can do is be there, be sure he knows that even if every friend he has rejects him, you won't, he will have his family no matter how anyone else reacts to him coming out.
Just be available to him and, support him whether he decides to come out or not, don't try to push the issue. Let your son decide what is right for him and, when it's comfortable for him to come out.
There are some excellent books out there that might be of interest to you both as well. One I recommend is Farm Boys, it's a biography of what gays in a rural, pretty fundamental community go through.
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