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Well said Bowyn.

Some of those "scars" might still be open wounds. They weren't put there in a day or even a week or a month - they were put there over years and, like any wound, they take longer to close than they did to open. Don't expect them to turn to faded scars overnight, it won't happen, but one by one, in time and, with work they will do just that. No they never disappear entirely but, they don't have to stay gaping wounds that make us miserable or cause us so much pain either.