were you shy before your coming out?

[Bowyn Aerrow]

but..if I did the coming out I would risk to lose my friends (at least, many of them)..here is the problem: I'm "scared" 'cause I fear not to be able to make new ones ('cause of my shyness)..what do you think about this?

I think your fear is valid - meaning it makes a lot of sense and is a 'real' fear.
However I doubt you will go through life and not make new friends.

I only have a few real friends in the world - I can pretty much count them on one hand.

I do have a lot of acquaintances - There is a huge difference between these two forms of relationship. http://www.google.com/#hl=en&output=sear...00&bih=856 has lots of sites that try to explain the difference.

Unfortunately our modern world tends to try to blur the line. All of those people on Facebook are not your friends - although Facebook says they are. Facebook lies.

Your real friends (if you have any around you) will not leave your side because you are gay. They will stick with you through thick and thin.

Mere acquaintances are fickle and will use and abuse you until they have gotten whatever it is they want from you then vanish.

Coming out is a good way to weed out the acquaintances from the friends.

Do you honestly want to be around people who want you to lie to them and play at being something you are not? Is that fair to you? How is it remotely friendly to have to be forced to live a lie in order to keep these people in your life?

Many people will walk into your life, only a very few will prove to be real friends. your being an introvert may keep more mere acquaintances away, but will make you more appealing to many who will be a true friend to you.