Found him on a porn site :S

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The porn for me would be non issue and in my opinion it isn't really an issue...your real problem is the physical and emotional abuse and so forget about the porn and focus on that as the single reason to avoid him.

Unfortunately...abusive people know exactly who to pick as a mate so what you CAN do is figure out what part of you needs repair and work on that. I know exactly what I am talking about...I had to do the very thing I am suggesting to you to get rid of and become unattractive to abusive obsessive stalker kind of men many years ago.