10-15-2012, 02:43 PM
first off welcome to GaySpeak
I noticed a slight twinge, a slight blink from my partner when I was working on his iPhone. He was in the room watching me. A bunch of red lights went off in my brain and later in the day i re visited his iPhone w/o his knowledge. Found he was texting a boy.
I posted this and asked gayspeak members if it was ok to spy on him. I think it was obvious, i did it with out regret but some members like Rainbowmum posted i was wrong in spying. Gayspeak members also advised my to cool off, dont do anything for a few days. This worked and we talked it through. I think your on the right track tho its all your decision.
TRUST is a major component in a relationship and things like this changes things forever as . We are now more open about things. I told him to clean up all emails texts and log files. I also told him I WILL be going through his stuff and i needed accounts passwords.
This led to a second argument; when I found some more things, even after I told him to clean up stuff.
-Basically both of you need to sit down and discuss your needs are; like is texting another gay is NOT ok with out mentioning it to your partner.
-You need to come up with a list of things you need for you to improve the TRUST issues you have and again present your situation to your BF. Be willing to compromise. I would not threaten him with leaving just then.
If he is not willing to work with you best you bail.
I noticed a slight twinge, a slight blink from my partner when I was working on his iPhone. He was in the room watching me. A bunch of red lights went off in my brain and later in the day i re visited his iPhone w/o his knowledge. Found he was texting a boy.
I posted this and asked gayspeak members if it was ok to spy on him. I think it was obvious, i did it with out regret but some members like Rainbowmum posted i was wrong in spying. Gayspeak members also advised my to cool off, dont do anything for a few days. This worked and we talked it through. I think your on the right track tho its all your decision.
TRUST is a major component in a relationship and things like this changes things forever as . We are now more open about things. I told him to clean up all emails texts and log files. I also told him I WILL be going through his stuff and i needed accounts passwords.
This led to a second argument; when I found some more things, even after I told him to clean up stuff.
-Basically both of you need to sit down and discuss your needs are; like is texting another gay is NOT ok with out mentioning it to your partner.
-You need to come up with a list of things you need for you to improve the TRUST issues you have and again present your situation to your BF. Be willing to compromise. I would not threaten him with leaving just then.
If he is not willing to work with you best you bail.
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