How will I know?

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Thanks guys! It hasn't been easy, but I have gotten to the point where I can think about him and all the things we share and not break down and cry. And as far as being bitter or angry towards him, I've never felt that way. That's just not the type of person I am.

I know I don't NEED someone in my life like that, but it would be nice to have someone to come home to each day and talk about what all went on in each others lives. I never could do that with my ex wife because the moment I'd start complaining about something she would turn it around and make me feel bad for getting upset over something that happened.

I know it's not going to be in the next two or three weeks, but I was thinking sometime around the first of the year. That is, if we all survive 12-21-12!!! LOL

I take it you don't do 'alone' or make the mistake of thinking that alone must be lonely. Being single is not all about loneliness. Perhaps I'm just an odd person, but I enjoy being alone - meaning without people around me - I enjoy it so much I used to go hunting, fishing, hiking, camping alone - well as alone as one can be surrounded by thousands of trees, birds, rocks, chipmunks, a few bears, mountain lions, perhaps wolves or coyotes.

I'm unclear here, are you divorced or in the process of divorce, thus only separated? If the divorce is proceeding, now is a good time to NOT get involved with another person. That whole divorce situation can do numbers to your mood, especially if lawyers get involved.

If you have divorced (legally) then have you worked through all of the luggage you picked up from your marriage, the resentments of the marriage, the resentments of the divorce?

Yes it would be nice to spend holidays with people, but it would also be nice to have a million dollars laying about the house too... Some things are impossible to have sometimes.

I have successfully managed to survive several holidays by myself. It wasn't sad, it wasn't horrific. I had a good, comfortable time at home by myself. Slept in late, had coffee with eggnog, spent the day reading and relaxing - all good.

I'll tell you this much, if you can't be comfortable by yourself or with just yourself, you are going to have troubles being around other people - like partners. If you don't like yourself enough to want to spend time with just yourself, changes are high others will not want to spend time with you.

As for that puppy - It is already communicating a lot more to you than just 'feed me'. You just need to learn how to listen with your whole being. Dogs are often the most loyal and loving companions a person can have. Unlike humans their love comes without strings attached.

So having a Christmas Day with just your dog isn't really alone. Especially if you focus a bit of attention doing puppy type things....