Dating again after a breakup

[tattiemuncher]

Hello everyone.

I've been single now for roughly 2 and a half years after my last long term relationship ended. It was over suddenly with no real explanation or closure from the ex. This tore me up inside for a long while but I'm over it now.

I've enjoyed being single for a while. Not having anyone to answer to, sitting around in my boxers all day not giving a crap about having looking presentable all the time. Problem is that I think I've become too comfortable with this arrangement. However, when I look at my friends relationships/marriages, it just seems like so much effort. Some of them also seem to be in relationships for all the wrong reasons. They're either too scared to be alone or have just accepted who they're with. While puts me off even more!

Even online dating seems to be a bit of chore. Struggling to make the effort to send a decent reply to someone who's messaged me.

I'm in a bit of rut and need some advice to help me get out of it. I keep thinking that it's down to the demise of my last relationship. I loved the guy with my heart and soul and I'm probably comparing what I had to anyone new who shows an interest.

Any suggestions/advice would be very much appreciated! Feel free to ask any questions. I'll be as honest as I can.

Cheers