Dating again after a breakup

[tattiemuncher]

Thanks OlderButWiser. Online dating is a bit of a necessity for me. The city I live in does have a gay area, but in all the times I've been there, it's always been full of overly effeminate guys (no offence meant, I just prefer a masculine guy) or it's full of cliques of gay guys who seem threatened when you try an approach one of their group. It's not a big gay scene so it probably doesn't have the broad spectrum of gay guys that some larger cities do. One of my best friends lives in a city with a much larger gay population/scene and has no trouble finding the types of guys he prefers in pubs/clubs.

I've also had some rather odd reactions from guys in my city when I'm out due to the fact that I'm "straight acting". Which is a term I hate but some guys have a hard time believing I'm gay, think I'm bi or just seem put off because I don't act like them. It's very confusing!

But your right in that fact that I need to start putting myself out there and not be afraid to say no after a few dates if it's not working out.

Also thanks Bowyn Aerrow for your comment. I'm generally happy being single and don't feel I need a relationship to somehow validate myself. I've met people like that and it's just sad. I'm not desperate to get involved or anything like that. I just think that I've deliberately steered away from new guys due to the way I was burned with my last relationship. I'm coming round to the realisation that not every relationship will end the same way.

Glad I found this site. Everyone's been very nice and honest!