03-05-2014, 05:56 AM
You can't delete a thread, I learned this when I made a dumb anonymous post, whoopsie (but at least I had a bag over my face hehe).
And besides, this thread is very positive, in that you realize you have some control over your perception towards life, and that you want it to be a good one.
A small issue: You will never meet, or be, Mr. Perfect. It won't happen, you will always make mistakes, and have challenges. You will fail. Believe that you can learn from struggles, and do learn from them --- that's what makes you a better person.
And a bigger issue: You aren't pathetic because of the problems you're going through. We're all human, we all have weaknesses and things to work on. Being aware enough to see that you have issues makes you that much more impressive than most people that will never do so.
If possible; I really hope you work through your issues with a counsellor. If not possible, I believe you can learn the skills and methods needed to work through a lot of your problems as is (I'm aware that health care is...complicated in the USA.). But if you're in school, I imagine you have access to mental health services. You're obviously self aware, and that's a major asset in any problem you're ever going to have.
Lastly: You deserve and can choose happiness. Obviously, if a favourite pet dies, life changes happen that are negative, etc., you'll be stressed and unhappy, but try to always look for the good side in everything.
I thought to mention the point about happiness because of something Londoner (another GS member) posted today, about the regrets of people who are in the process of naturally passing on, as told by a caring nurse. One of these regrets was that many patients realized that they can choose to allow themselves to be happy, and wonder that they didn't do so. http://collectivelyconscious.net/article...-deathbed/
Honestly believe this is possible for you; even if you see a counsellor and discover medical problems, I hope you never give up on that.
If you take nothing else from this though: I will bet my money on one thing: You are absolutely not the failure you think you are. There are things about you that are good that no one gets to see, I hope that you are selfish, and start noticing and being proud of them. It's okay to love yourself.
And besides, this thread is very positive, in that you realize you have some control over your perception towards life, and that you want it to be a good one.
A small issue: You will never meet, or be, Mr. Perfect. It won't happen, you will always make mistakes, and have challenges. You will fail. Believe that you can learn from struggles, and do learn from them --- that's what makes you a better person.
And a bigger issue: You aren't pathetic because of the problems you're going through. We're all human, we all have weaknesses and things to work on. Being aware enough to see that you have issues makes you that much more impressive than most people that will never do so.
If possible; I really hope you work through your issues with a counsellor. If not possible, I believe you can learn the skills and methods needed to work through a lot of your problems as is (I'm aware that health care is...complicated in the USA.). But if you're in school, I imagine you have access to mental health services. You're obviously self aware, and that's a major asset in any problem you're ever going to have.
Lastly: You deserve and can choose happiness. Obviously, if a favourite pet dies, life changes happen that are negative, etc., you'll be stressed and unhappy, but try to always look for the good side in everything.
I thought to mention the point about happiness because of something Londoner (another GS member) posted today, about the regrets of people who are in the process of naturally passing on, as told by a caring nurse. One of these regrets was that many patients realized that they can choose to allow themselves to be happy, and wonder that they didn't do so. http://collectivelyconscious.net/article...-deathbed/
Honestly believe this is possible for you; even if you see a counsellor and discover medical problems, I hope you never give up on that.
If you take nothing else from this though: I will bet my money on one thing: You are absolutely not the failure you think you are. There are things about you that are good that no one gets to see, I hope that you are selfish, and start noticing and being proud of them. It's okay to love yourself.
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